student1990 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Hi there. My problem is to do with a possible situation next week. We broke up nearly 2 weeks ago now, in the first week we made contact maybe 4 times, once on the phone, once on text and once on facebook and once on a night out that last one being unavoidable completely. I have posted a few threads on here so i wont go into our break up. All you need to know it ended up being mutual and no hard feelings. I know how NC works and i know why it could give me the best chance of a future between us if there is one for us. However we have been completely NC for 7 days now despite the fact we live in the same building, same floor, different flats at uni. I havent found it hard to do NC because i know its for the best in terms of myself however next week i know she going home therefore i wont see her until september. So here is my problem, she may come to say goodbye and wish me a good summer so what everyone do in this situation? Do i let her do this, let her come to me to say goodbye? Do i go to her and say goodbye? And if we do see each other before we part ways, what do i say? My only problem is myself really. I do think of myself as a romantic, thinking i live inside films, some of the things i did before we got together proved this. I know my "hollywood" brain is telling me, keep your cool, say goodbye and give her a kiss and wish her luck on her placement but i know this would do more damage than good. My actual brain says id prefer it if we didnt say goodbye in a way as ive dealt with myself so well, no fighting, arguing, begging, stalking none of that so why mess it up now as i dont have any urge to do any of those things. I want to put myself in the best possible position so if reconciliation is possible, it has the best chance. I am willing to stick NC out, the old saying if you love someone, you have to let them go and you have to let someone go before you can get them back thing, im all up for moving on and reclaiming myself and being the man i was then seeing if she is still who i want. Mike
Author student1990 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 lol thanks man. Just didn't want to look like a heartless bastard for not even saying goodbye but i suppose thats the point of NC to show her what she gave up when she gave up on us. Mike
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