This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I can feel myself falling back into that deep, depressive feeling and I really don't want it to ruin my weekend. Any advice on what I can do to prevent this?
alphamale Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 do some exercise or go shopping. you could also eat some chocolate
ALombard Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Well first off let me ask you something, what thoughts are running through your head right now? Recap the situation really quick.
EricaH329 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Try and keep yourself as busy as possible. Of course, you will still feel sadness at certain times, but you can prevent it from consuming you.
You Go Girl Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 PLAN! Idle hours are the devil's work...so have the weekend filled. Definitely part of those hours need to be social. If you're going to be alone in the evening, pick the movie you will watch ahead of time, something not depressing. Have it all planned out, and busy, so that you don't end up with idle hours, and that you can't finish everything on the list for the weekend. Reward work time, as in something you want to get accomplished, with fun time, such as social or a movie. And NEVER NEVER NEVER drink alone.
Author This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 Thank you all. I had a doctor's appointment after posting this and now I'm back home... alone :/ I'm going to see if I can help my friends move out of their house and then appointment with my therapist at 4, and then a little party tonight celebrating their move... At least today is covered, we'll see about the rest of the weekend... NEVER NEVER NEVER drink alone. What about drinking with others?
Female Tech Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I really do know what you mean. I can feel strong at times, then other times I can feel the depression set in. I know no matter how much I try and talk myself out of it... I am likely to make an effort to contact and end up right back where I started all over again. The minutes seem more like hours and I try to find anything to fill that time with so I am not just sitting and thinking about missing him. I hate shopping, but just to get out I will go walk around in stores. I have even had date offers doing that which can also help you get your mind off things and feel good about yourself for a little while. I love to drive, and if you have set up a good music CD to go with you of music that is upbeat and fast it helps even more! I don't care where I drive, I just go. Of course as many suggest... working out is great. It takes up time as well as does great things for your body and attitude. Another post in here that really stuck with me recommends that you treat yourself as you would a new mate. Concentrate on complimenting yourself as if you are seen through another's eyes... and do things for yourself that make you happy. Good luck with your weekend. I do hope you are able to find something to help you feel better. <Hugz>
Author This Hurts Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 I really do know what you mean. I can feel strong at times, then other times I can feel the depression set in. I know no matter how much I try and talk myself out of it... I am likely to make an effort to contact and end up right back where I started all over again. The minutes seem more like hours and I try to find anything to fill that time with so I am not just sitting and thinking about missing him. I hate shopping, but just to get out I will go walk around in stores. I have even had date offers doing that which can also help you get your mind off things and feel good about yourself for a little while. I love to drive, and if you have set up a good music CD to go with you of music that is upbeat and fast it helps even more! I don't care where I drive, I just go. Of course as many suggest... working out is great. It takes up time as well as does great things for your body and attitude. Another post in here that really stuck with me recommends that you treat yourself as you would a new mate. Concentrate on complimenting yourself as if you are seen through another's eyes... and do things for yourself that make you happy. Good luck with your weekend. I do hope you are able to find something to help you feel better. <Hugz> Thank you for your reply! I actually loved working out, but this breakup has sucked all the motivation out of me and I haven't worked out at all. It's been a month since the breakup, though, and I feel it's about time to start pushing myself to start running again. The first few days will be hard, but hopefully I have the strength to force myself to just do it.
Female Tech Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 I love working out too once I get in the habit. After my break up I had no motivation for anything, I simply couldn't focus at all. For me it came down to time. Time is what I wanted desperately to put between me and the breakup! I then thought of ways I could move time... how could I make it pass quickly so I could get to that place where I felt myself healing? The answer is to fill it with anything (I should add safe and within reason ! Working out is an easy way to pass time if you start slow with something you don't have to think about like walking or running. So even if you feel you aren't going to be able to jump into a workout routine or have to think to line up a workout, instead start running as a way to put time between you and the break without having to even think. It really seemed to help me to see it as a time filler at first until I started to enjoy it again. PS hope things go well with your party tonight, that you stay safe and can resist the urge to contact. Let us know how things went.
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