missfrenchie Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I honestly don’t know where to begin really… I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months. It’s been very "whirlwind" to say the least. Both of us got very much caught up in it all and now I’m sad to say it feels like it’s falling apart, painfully slow. He was having issues with where he was living and offered that he could stay with me until he sorted alternative arrangements – which he never really did. He ended up staying for about 6 or 7 weeks in total. We’ve been arguing over silly things and I honestly thought it was because we were seeing each other every single day. We’re both independent people but we just loved spending time together… We both said numerous times we wanted to take a step back but we just never did….. It just kept going faster. We’ve both decided that we don’t want this kind of relationship. We want to be together, but we don’t want the fighting. He says he wants to take some time to miss me and to realise what we have. So obviously the "no contact" rule comes in. I agree, we need some time but I’m scared ****less that I’m going to lose him. Each time we’ve talked extensively about it I just continue to become more and more confused. He says he wants to be with me and he wants to try again and hopes that we’ll be there for each other when we are both ready…. I’m completely beside myself. We’re meant to be travelling back to his home in France in August… It’s so easy to say we can give each other time…….. Doing it is so much harder.
Author missfrenchie Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 I guess i'm just asking for some advice...... He's always been open and honest, never lied about anything... even if he knew it would hurt my feelings. I just feel so lost and anxious. I've not even managed to eat for the last 2 days. I know keeping myself busy is key here but it makes it so hard when my birthday is coming up in a week and a half and we have to act as friends. I have to trust he is doing this for the right reasons.
Perhaps Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Give it time, I guess. You said the fighting and arguing was getting outta hand. So, tell him you love him but you need some time apart to think things through. What about couples counseling?
Author missfrenchie Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 I'm really not sure either of us would go for that... Like I said, we're both really independent and unfortunately quite stubborn. If we can make it work we can do it together. Time is what we need I guess. It's just so hard not knowing. He's still in contact with me but I haven't contacted him at all..... We have so much on over the next couple of weeks that requires us to see each other that we've decided to take the "time apart" once that's all done. I'm trying to psyche myself up to feel happy around him... But I'll know deep down I'm faking it... I know what's looming around the corner.
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