kristinabopp Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 my boyfriend and i broke up last december 09. weve been together for a year and a half, we lived together but now we dont and since we broke up WE NEVER TALK TO EACH OTHER ANYMORE. even if we still love each other. he is the one who broke up with me, so i shouldnt even be the one initiating the talking first. and we broke up when i was here in california. so i never came back to DC anymore since then. well my very huge problem is, while we are together, i was pregnant and i got miscarriage. i got miscarriage around june/july. of course, there are BILLS EVERYWHERE! but since we broke up we never talk to each other and stuff. at the mid of february, i got a PACKAGE FROM HIM. when i opened it, IT WAS ALL THE HOSPITAL BILLS. i was shock!!! i cant believe he is expecting me to pay all of the hospital bills! the bill is almost $4000-5000! i cant pay all of it! WHAT SHOULD I DO?i think my insurance card is with him. should i pay all of this? or should i ask him to help me?but if i talk to him, i dont know if he will help me, i dont know if i can handle it.im so stressed right now!! i cant sleep well since we broke up, and i got more depressed because of this. i need help in here. can anyone relate or guide me through this?
Tony T Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 First, you need to get your insurance card from him to see what your insurance will pay. Once you know that, he should pay at least half of your out of pocket part of the bill. If he refuses, see an attorney immediately. He was part of that pregnancy and needs to hold up his part of the responsibility for whatever happened. It's time to be tough...don't take any crap from him. Use an attorney if he won't pay.
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 First, you need to get your insurance card from him to see what your insurance will pay. Once you know that, he should pay at least half of your out of pocket part of the bill. If he refuses, see an attorney immediately. He was part of that pregnancy and needs to hold up his part of the responsibility for whatever happened. It's time to be tough...don't take any crap from him. Use an attorney if he won't pay. Was paternity ever established...? If not, this might be one of those SOL types of situations...and even if it was, this is not quite so clear cut...it'll depend on the state where it happened...
Author kristinabopp Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 whats PATERNITY? it happened in dc. and i got my insurance when i was already in miscarriage. its an emergency insurance,i think i got medicaid. what do i do now?
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 whats PATERNITY? it happened in dc. and i got my insurance when i was already in miscarriage. its an emergency insurance,i think i got medicaid. what do i do now? Paternity is where you establish that your ex was actually the father. Did your ex ever consent that he was the father, or were tests ever done to prove it? Unfortunately, I cannot advise you beyond that...
Author kristinabopp Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 i dont think if they have done that because i wasnt really paying attention that time because i was in pain.but ill check on the paperworks and will update this thread
Alex5535 Posted May 16, 2010 Posted May 16, 2010 (edited) Kristina, I'm so sorry, I wish I could do something for you. If I were in your situation before I met my savior, I would definitely kill myself. I remember when I hated my life so much because I had so many financial problems and I was all alone, no friends, no family... I started looking where I can buy potassium cyanide that would end my life instantly and painlessly, but I started crying so hard because I was scared that I would never see the sun light and the flowers ever again. Then I remembered that Jesus loves me, that he died for me so that I can have an eternal life in heaven with him, where he will wipe away all my tears and that there will be no more sadness, pain or evil. I realized that life is a precious gift from him, that cost him his innocent blood. How could I throw away such a precious gift? I started praying, asking Jesus to spare my life and to save me from my problems. I promised him that I would consecrate my life to him if he makes me happy, but he did so much more then I what asked for. I got baptized and became a member of the Seventh Day Adventist church, God gave me faithful friends and a beautiful wife who loves me so much, and we never fight because Jesus' love lives inside both of us, that alone makes our home a heaven on earth, so that even angels are not ashamed to live with us. I also promised my Lord that I would share my testimony with others who are suffering, so that maybe if they believe me then they would be saved and be happy. I swear to you that God is real and his sacrifice for your sake is priceless, no length or height can describe the magnitude of his precious love for you!!! That's what I read in the Bible: "Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close." Psalm 27:10 Now find a Seventh Day Adventist church and ask them to give you bible studies, but do not go to some other church, because only Adventists take the bible as it is and who make no excuses before God's commandments. If you don't have one in proximity, then go visit this site and take those bible studies: www.bit.ly/aHK8Qe and www.AmazingFacts.com Also here is some music that will help you relax: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1xHRWCUBxaM Edited May 16, 2010 by Alex5535
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