njgrossi84 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Hello everyone, I'm going to try and make this supper short but I don't think it is going to be that short. We have been together for three years now, she is 18, I am 21. I know age deals with it a lot but I am looking for good conversation's on what I should do. Two week's ago my girlfriend broke up with me. This is the second time she has broken up with me. The first time she broke up with me was because she wanted her space, wanted to make sure I was the one, wanted to figure herself out(she has baby bipolar syndrome). Basically what happened that breakup is she went binge drinking every week, messed around with guys, eventually did another guy, after two months she wanted to talk and tell me she didn't want anything to do with me, cause she regretted what she did with all those guys. I helped her during this time and we got back together after a month and a half. The only thing's I asked her to not do was hangout with the two guys that she did stuff with, which to me is freaken reasonable. After four months of being back together we were doing great. Two weeks ago she had one of her bipolar crap hit her and she said she had to go home so I was like thats alright. So the next day she tells me that she went for a walk at 8pm the last night by herself cause she was freaking out. Basically she lied to me and she went and hangout with one of the guys she messed around with and his friends. The next day she said she needed to go get some help with her math homework but she went and hanged out with that guy again, so that was just another one of her lie's. After that that coming Sunday she wanted to break up with me cause she was having to many problems with school, her bi-polar. So I told her that I would help her talk to her parents about it and start going to bible studies cause we both wanted to get back on track with God. After that the next two day's were great seemed like she really wanted my help, on Tuesday, we ran together and then I helped her get her summer classes together. I told her that I couldn't get into UNL cause another college had my transcript and I haven't paid off the amount I need to so that I can get my official transcript sent to my new college. She then went into the idea of me going into the Air-Guard, I have been thinking about it for a long time I just dont like jumping into decisions. So I told her that I don't want to rush into it. (by the way we were walking up to my apartment to make some food and have a great dinner). She then kind of went and said we need to break-up. She then goes into we can still be friends, which entitle we can still cuddle, kiss, hug, all that relationship stuff basically. Then she say's she isn't looking for any guy to replace me cause no guy is going to replace me, and she doesn't want to date right now cause she doesn't want a relationship right now. So I go and say does that mean that's how she is going to hangout with other guys? Cuddling and all. After she leaves, the next day she text's me four time's in a two hour period. Saying how are you doing? I'm worried about you... Then why are you not talking? Then are you meeting with Trent? Hope you have a great day! So I was patient to respond, and texted her saying I'm well, whenever he wants to. She has not responded since then or even tried to keep contact, in fact she has done the opposite. This is stupid I know but it show's to me that she is trying to not think of me or doesn't want to be with me, she delete's me from her Facebook. Weird thing is though that she deactivated her Facebook a couple days before she broke up with me, and then reactivated it a day after she broke up with me. My friends have told me that she has invited all the people that she got drunk with and messed around with back into her life, and has deleted most of our pictures together. I have been listening to my friends advice and all of NC. The truth is, is this is freaken pissing me off. Cause when she broke up she said that she would contact me in about a week or two so I have been respecting her decision and leaving her be. Also totally off subject I am thinking of going into the Navy MA now. I know I need to think of myself, but I know that she will contact me in the future and it would kill me to know that she wants me back but I am completely gone lol. That's the jest of the situation right now, if you need to know more about what's going on to make a better judgement then just message me or write on here. I truely want to figure this out cause she is in my life a lot, hard to not miss her lol. Good advice would be much appreciated. Thank you for letting me vent.
Frontliner Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Good first post. But try to make some paragraphs next time. Cheers.
demi89 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 it sounds like you are putting your life on hold incase she comes back to you? you definetely shouldnt do that. get on with your life and find someone that acually wants to be with you and treat you right and not mess around with other guys!
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 More paragraphs...less apostrophes... This girl is bad news for you...remain in NC for the rest of your life...you don't want to ever get back with her again...no exceptions...she's 18 and has no idea what she wants...but she does know what she doesn't want, and that's you...don't be friends...don't cuddle...don't hug...don't talk...don't text...don't contact in any way, shape, or form...I know it's tough and you probably still have strong feelings for her, but you're just going to have tough for a little while until time can do its magic on you... If you go through with military training, bless the day she tries to come back and you are already long gone and moved on with your life...you will be MUCH happier that you did and left her in your dust...
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