brand new Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 so i was this girl for a yr and a half, it started off great, led to fighting, and break ups, but back together the next day. I started noticing phone calls decreased, messaging decreased, and overall intrest in seeing me decreased. So one night she told me she was done, and that she had been feeling this way for a while but felt bad. After talking it out, i told her i could change the things we talked about, and was given another chance. After a week or so, she randomly says she met someone else, they wernt dating or anything though, and that the feelings she once had changed, but she still loved me, but didnt want me. We talked it over a little bit after and she expressed she still wants to be friends. At first I thought of this as a way back in, but after we hung out for the first time that wasn't going to happen. While I was with her, all the feelings I still have, were just eating me up inside, and i wwas thinking that agreeing to be friends was a bad idea, and i was gonna feel empty and lonely when i got home. I did in fact feel awful when i got home, but after a couple hours went by, i felt a sudden sense of relief from the sadness. I thought long and hard about why this happened, and realized, I learned a valuable lesson, I was in fact one of the big reasons as to why she left me. I realized that she in fact helped me to see the reasons why it didnt work out, and ways to change myself. I still do want to be friends, do i hope she comes back to me? of course, but the fact of the matter is nothing changes until i change. if she never comes back, than I will get a friendship with a great bond, and will have bettered myself and become a stronger person, and if it does work out, than i will know how to not let the one that got away get away again.
northstar1 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 sorry for your pain, i know it hurts to be in that spot but i have to question if you really think you can be friends now? how will you react when she tells you about her new guy ?
Author brand new Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 i dont know, we tried hanging out yesterday, i dropped her off n said so what ya up to tonight n she said stayting home, turns out she didnt stay home, and stayed out all night which is tough but, i just gotta suck up my pride and feelings n try and take this as an opportunity to focus on myself now. i think the friend idea was a bad decision, and im just going to play the space card i guess, see how that works. I just wish there was some way to remind her that things werent always so difficult for us and that we did have a lot more great times than bad ones. I mean we have broken up 3 or 4 times, but we always end up making up. I dont think she will ever come home where she belongs, with me.
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