ex texting me after 6 months of NC

[salem mark]

need advice , see previous posts for history if interested.

 

my ex gf is texting me sporadically (she dumped me BTW), wished happy st patty day, pics from her vacation and this past Saturday, asked/texted me to go out for a drink ( i was out of town and asked for a raincheck)

 

I played it very cool

 

 

What should I do, I would love to see her again, but I want her to beg me.

 

Any advice?

[salem mark]

20 views and no replies , thanks everybody

[cmichael16]

Have you been replying to her texts before?

[salem mark]

i guess thats a mistake,

 

i havent been on this site for a while,

 

i started reading other posts,

 

it appears she 's just playing with me,

 

otherwise she would make it clear why she would want to see me,

 

ill forget her,

 

but truthfully it made me feel great and

i was very surprised to hear from her again

[lvixen]

She definitely is playing with you. My ex did the same to me, he had no interest in getting back with me after he dumped me. He was just bored and looking for someone to talk to. I initiated NC with the jerk and I haven't been happier since! I'm sure for the past 6 months you too have been feeling better and better as time goes by. Don't risk that by responding to her texts. If you're 100% over her then go ahead, but otherswise just ignore all her attempts to contact you. If she is REALLY persistent then feel free to tell her to get bent.

 

Hope this helped.

[salem mark]

she mentioned last weekend in her text about going to SF in a few months and to keep it in mind,

 

is she crazy?

[cmichael16]

Sounds like Poke Poke Poke to me... dont reply to her, I know its hard, my ex will disappear for 3 4 5 days then randomly text me something businesslike (though all of that is now settled) so I expect Friday Saturday or Sunday Ill get a random text or worse call from her. I will not respond, my last message to my ex was: "If you want to reconcile call me and we will meet and discuss, but not any time in the next few weeks(?) I grow stronger every day and will not respond to breadcrumbs. If I havent heard from you in a very long time and am 100% over you I may reach out to you but it is not likely, Sorry. Ill talk to you at some juncture I am sure."

 

that was me being nice and saying to knock it off. I am not waiting for her to text, I know she will find some excuse, and it will probably be good enough for me to reply, but I wont this time.

 

Also her grandmother has started texting me off and on, I dont mind talking to her, but I said explicitly to her that When/if my ex changes her mind and wants someone who wont desert her and will care for her no matter what she can pick up the phone and let me know and Ill consider it if I am single. she agreed it was best.

 

So go NC and dont look back. It has about a 90% likelyhood she will move on just as you will, and a 10% chance she will miss and contact you, Im rooting for the 90% im sick of her BS.

 

Sorry to go all ranty, but NC is very important!

[lvixen]

Are you from San Francisco?

[skydiveaddict]

 

 

What should I do, I would love to see her again, but I want her to beg me.

 

Any advice?

 

 

That's the way to go. She's already dragged you through the crap heap once. If she wants you back, make her prove it.

[Frontliner]

She sounds like a real jerk. Get rid of her for good. Find someone better.

[cmoney]

I would want to have more information before I gave you an opinion. Why did she break up with you? How much were you hurt? Did she cheat on you? Did you cheat on her? I am of the opinion that generally, dumpers sometimes like to get back in touch with an ex to ease their conscious and to make sure there are no hard feelings. It is usually a selfish thing to do but they do not see it that way.

 

If your feelings for her have changed and the anger has subsided, you might think about meeting up with her. However, seeing her could possibly open up old wounds. Just one man's opinion.