annxxdisaster Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 So there's a really long confusing tale behind this, but in short... my last ex and I had a mutual friend who means a lot to both of us, but for different reasons. We recently got in touch again and he brought up to her how we dated for a while, and she asked me what happened. I told her. The scenario was the same as it was for those two before and for my ex and I (he apparently says really nice things to them, and even if he's dating a girl he's still talking to one on the side to). She just broke up with her boyfriend and so he hopped on that train asap. WELL, when I told her what he did to me she got upset and realized that he's a jerk and ended stuff with him. So he just messaged me now apologizing for "breaking my heart" and blah blah blah. There are SO many different responses I want to give, one is silence. The other one would be correcting him or letting him know that it really was the best thing that ever happened to me (because it seriously was), or to say he should simply be sorry for leading me on. The part that bothers me the most though is that he made it sound like the only reason I was talking to this girl was to break them apart. He said it was "well played" and that I "won the war" which was NOT my intention to come between anything they had started. I want to reconnect with someone who was important to me at one point in my life, to make up for a friendship I missed out on. Ugh. Sorry. This guy is a huuuge jerk.
GrayClouds Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 So there's a really long confusing tale behind this, but in short... my last ex and I had a mutual friend who means a lot to both of us, but for different reasons. We recently got in touch again and he brought up to her how we dated for a while, and she asked me what happened. I told her. The scenario was the same as it was for those two before and for my ex and I (he apparently says really nice things to them, and even if he's dating a girl he's still talking to one on the side to). She just broke up with her boyfriend and so he hopped on that train asap. WELL, when I told her what he did to me she got upset and realized that he's a jerk and ended stuff with him. So he just messaged me now apologizing for "breaking my heart" and blah blah blah. There are SO many different responses I want to give, one is silence. The other one would be correcting him or letting him know that it really was the best thing that ever happened to me (because it seriously was), or to say he should simply be sorry for leading me on. The part that bothers me the most though is that he made it sound like the only reason I was talking to this girl was to break them apart. He said it was "well played" and that I "won the war" which was NOT my intention to come between anything they had started. I want to reconnect with someone who was important to me at one point in my life, to make up for a friendship I missed out on. Ugh. Sorry. This guy is a huuuge jerk. He poked you with a stick, and he is waiting for you to say ouch. By just leaving it alone you will not give him any satisfaction.
Author annxxdisaster Posted April 29, 2010 Author Posted April 29, 2010 (edited) He poked you with a stick, and he is waiting for you to say ouch. By just leaving it alone you will not give him any satisfaction. That, my friend, was my plan. The only thing that is important to me is that my friend knows that I did not get in contact with her again to start up anything like this. And I've told her this, so she knows. She also knows that this is a game he plays with girls, she said it to me, so that gives me faith that she's smart enough and privy to how he works to know that is not the case. It's not even a matter of wanting to deprive him of the satisfaction of me reacting to him. I just really don't want to talk to him and probably invite more drama and stupid things into my life. Of course it would make a few days more interesting, but painful as well. I'm through relying on drama to bringing excitement in my life. Edited April 29, 2010 by annxxdisaster
GrayClouds Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I'm through relying on drama to bringing excitement in my life. Words of a ever growing healthier and happier person. As far as the friend, just continue to to kind and she will see through your actions that you are a good person.
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