Scottie Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 (edited) Where do I start? I am currently on anti – depressants for stress and anxiety caused by a problem I was having with a supervisor who was bullying me at work. That has been dealt with but I am still on the medication prescribed by my GP. I am not feeling so good at all at the moment, I am not who I am and where I am going in life and when I get home from work I just want to shut my bedroom door and ignore the world. However I share a room with my younger 19 year old brother, I am 22. Today as soon as I sat down he turns the TV on, which is right behind where I am sat. He is allowed to watch TV yes, but he was home all day today so why not watch in during the day? (Before I sound selfish) the programme he was watching was pre-recorded because he took over the room the night before to watch a football match (Not even his team I might add) So he could have watched the recorded programme during the day. Anyway, I moaned about it and he threw the remote control on the floor, I picked it up and threw it back on his bed (Where he was sat) and he jumped up and as if he wanted to fight! We argued for a few seconds then as my mum appears in the room he threw the remote at my face! Damaging my glasses. I flipped and I threw a punch at him, we was sort of fighting until or mum managed to get in the way and pull us apart. She said he threw the remote at me after I punched him which was the other way around and she saw this! My mum suffered for depression so she should understand me but she doesn’t, she said I am the trouble maker, I am spoilt and she is going to kick me out! I am really hurt by her, I thought she would know where I am coming from and try to help me but she doesn’t seem to care. I went to get my glasses fixed (Luckily they managed to bend them back into shape) and then went for a drive to cool down. I am I really the selfish one? For being ill and not being able to cope with my brothers ways? Edited April 29, 2010 by Scottie
Ronni_W Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 I am not feeling so good at all at the moment, I am not who I am and where I am going in life and when I get home from work I just want to shut my bedroom door and ignore the world. Scottie, You're 22 years old, much more adult than child at this stage. What else are you doing for yourself, to get out of your funk (other than take anti-depressants)? If you are going around feeling and acting morose and entitled, moaning and complaining, and blaming it all on your bad experience with your supervisor and the fact that you're still taking meds -- well, of course, your 19-year sibling is gonna start resenting you just being a victim and acting like you're entitled. If the situations were reversed, consider how you'd feel in his shoes. I'm quite sure your brother likes it no better than you do, having to share a room. It's just the hand you've BOTH been dealt, right now. Deal with it. It won't last forever, in any case. (I expect that you are saving up so that you can get a place of your own sooner than later, yes?) Your mom's experience with depression likely helped her to understand that adults with depression are, ultimately, responsible for doing what they need to do to recover from it, and carry on with life, and be understanding, supportive and contributing members of their household. Have a conversation with her. She may be feeling stressed and helpless at having a 22-year old around who is not taking enough responsibility for his own mental and emotional health and well-being. You can also find out if/how her experience with depression can help you, and if she has any suggestions as to what you can do to help yourself. I wouldn't necessarily label your attitude-behaviour as "selfish"...but it is coming across as under-responsible, kind of a victim mindset, and as if you believe you are owed special privileges.
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