wjg23g Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Ok, so my good friend & I got romantically involved, she ended it, even though she said she had strong feelings for me, because she decided not to break up w/ her LD BF. We were then friends for a month, but I didn’t handle that well (& I had some family problems too) & she ended the friendship. I apologized in person & begged her not to end things in one email, but then left it alone. We then had to sit next to each other for a month in class, only occasionally making small talk if I initiated (she never began a convo/said hello until I did). Last day of class, I told her only “take care” & slipped her the following note: Dear X, I apologize for my behavior earlier this semester & if I caused you stress. I was going through some tough times & didn’t handle things well. As I value your friendship above all & care about you, it disappoints me how things have turned out between us. Best wishes; enjoy Europe W That was a few days ago. Yesterday I deleted her on FB because I’m still having a hard time getting over the loss. She then blocked me, and then this morning unblocked me. I only checked because she wrote me a short email: Found your card. water under the bridge…have a great summer, I hope everything works out for you. She’s moving in with her BF for a month before going to Europe (not with him). I miss having her as my friend most, but I still have strong feelings for her. Should I respond to her email at all? If it’s “water under the bridge,” Should I ask for a 2nd chance at friendship? Wait 4 months until the fall to initiate (I won’t see her all summer)? Or just let it go, knowing I most likely will not have her back romantically & that we won’t ever be as close again as friends? Judging by her short note & actions, I think I should just let it go, although I obviously want her back. Thoughts? Also, if I was going to talk to her in person, the last chance will be tomorrow after an exam we have.
Author wjg23g Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 I was thinking of asking her to grab lunch & catch up when she gets back from Europe. Should I pitch this idea to her before she leaves or when she comes back in the august? also, she & i were very close friends before the falling out. eventually, i wouldn't mind being just friends with her.
TLH Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Let it be and let her contact you when she is ready. In the meantime, you should really try to figure out why you would get romantically involved with a girl who is in a relationship. Also, you should think about why you are attracted to a girl who is capable of cheating. If she did it to her current boyfriend, chances are she will do it again to future boyfriends. Dig deep.
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