Peaceful Guy Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 bar/club/dance party - this is cool.. lots of people, lots of talking.. can't do it every night though.. also, its loud! and.. theirs drinking.. yoga class - fun, people are in a good mood.. not a lot of talking during the exercise portion! any suggestions? pros and cons appreciated!
Pedigree Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Birthday parties: The person holding it usually invites different groups of friends so you meet new people that way.
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Social networking. Meeting new people through your friends and their friends.
Author Peaceful Guy Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 Birthday parties: The person holding it usually invites different groups of friends so you meet new people that way. that's a good one.
Author Peaceful Guy Posted April 30, 2010 Author Posted April 30, 2010 Social networking. Meeting new people through your friends and their friends. ive done some of that and it works pretty well, but my old circles are pretty well.. just that.. circles.. not a lot of new people in and out.. that's why ive taken to finding new places to go to meet people, but definitely thanks and i agree with you!
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 ive done some of that and it works pretty well, but my old circles are pretty well.. just that.. circles.. not a lot of new people in and out.. that's why ive taken to finding new places to go to meet people, but definitely thanks and i agree with you! Yep, I agree that it sometimes comes to an end point like you say...but just remember that it only takes one connection to open up an entirely new network... For me, the most active networking place recently has been the gym...I have met a lot of new folks there, some of which I started to talk to and hang out with outside the gym...so it's really finding places that you enjoy going to anyway and just being more open to saying hi to a stranger...then that person is no longer a stranger...and the next time you see them, you can build your repoire with them...it's a gradual process, but I find that it's more effective to ease your way into a friendship with someone new over the course of a few encounters...if that's possible...
Samari Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Work, school, the gym, even some random coffee shop. You just need to strike up a conversation with someone and find some common ground. That is the key to building something. Be friendly. I'd stick away from clubs and bars. It's usually loud, dark, people are also intoxicated. If you're looking for a one night stand okay fine. However, if you're looking for something that may last a while longer then these places are arguably the worst.
Author Peaceful Guy Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 ...but just remember that it only takes one connection to open up an entirely new network... that's a really good point. For me, the most active networking place recently has been the gym...I have met a lot of new folks there, some of which I started to talk to and hang out with outside the gym...so it's really finding places that you enjoy going to anyway and just being more open to saying hi to a stranger...then that person is no longer a stranger...and the next time you see them, you can build your repoire with them...it's a gradual process, but I find that it's more effective to ease your way into a friendship with someone new over the course of a few encounters...if that's possible... i do like the gym. and i do have people that i like and talk to there. so, how do you go from friendly conversation to other activities?
USMCHokie Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 i do like the gym. and i do have people that i like and talk to there. so, how do you go from friendly conversation to other activities? Ask for their number...even from the guys... Or even connect via Facebook...
Author Peaceful Guy Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 ..even some random coffee shop. when i was younger i had a lot of i don't know what you'd call it.. i'de go up to girls more often and just go for it.. i guess nowadays i let my butterflies get the better of me! but.. really.. i've found that once i know a few people in a room it gets easier. for instance, if you know 8 people in a group of 9.. its easy to talk to the 1 you don't know.. but if you know 1 or 0 people in a group of 9.. its tough. i like to talk to people (usually guys) about nerd stuff, whatever.. before i go talk to others that aren't as immediately easy to talk to, such as beautiful women! and actually, that's good practice for other guys that get overwhelmed in new social situations.. start with what makes you comfortable, and then branch out. I'd stick away from clubs and bars. It's usually loud, dark, people are also intoxicated. If you're looking for a one night stand okay fine. However, if you're looking for something that may last a while longer then these places are arguably the worst. yeah, that's true. the dance clubs i like to go to are kind of local hangouts.. and im not into the one night stand thing. but i find that most of the friendships made at the club seem to stay in the club world. i think that's something i struggle with.. i get along with people most everywhere i go but very rarely do i find someone that becomes part of my personal life (not sure how to put that).. i suppose that's why i want to try and find more and more places to meet people, so that i can find people i truly click with.
RobM Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 Community college, take a class you're interested in like photography or art or whatever. Take up a sport, tennis, wallyball, softball, take lessons, sign up for a group practice, join a team. Join a club, mountain bikers are some of the friendliest people I've ever met, road bikers are pretty cool too. Take a ball room dancing class, I think most have classes where they pair up the singles people, or line dancing.
Author Peaceful Guy Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 ..sports.. my bud was on a coed soccer team for people our age a few years ago.. that was cool. unfortunately, it was still competitive. i think volleyball might be cool. but again, ide want to like bbq and drink and chill and stuff.. not get the ball spiked in my face! ..religion.. this really should be something i can get into.. im a pretty spiritual guy. i guess im afraid of.. well, religion! :laugh: i mean, its kind of hard when friends tell me about their religions and it makes me really uncomfortable. im a middle ground kind of person, which means that i can see the good in most religions, but wouldn't really want to be with just one. i had thought about the unitarian church, because i think that's kind of what im talking about, but im not really sure. i guess also, i like to sleep in! :laugh: that is a good one though and ill need to look back into that. i think i would be (and was when my family attended a lutheran church) very happy at the social events that churches do. such as bbqs, fundraisers, trips, etc. :)
Author Peaceful Guy Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Community college, take a class you're interested in like photography or art or whatever. i like this one. ive wanted to do a bowling class for a while just for fun! art, photography, both of those would be cool too.
Author Peaceful Guy Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 Go skydiving best social networking there is im sure you guys are airtight (:lmao:).. sorry! really though, i believe that it would be a fun, highly close and exiting type of group to be in with. im just NOT willing to take the risk. really.. out of the question!!
skydiveaddict Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 no risk to it safer than crossing the street. Plus you'll meet a TON of fun people
Author Peaceful Guy Posted May 1, 2010 Author Posted May 1, 2010 no risk to it safer than crossing the street. Plus you'll meet a TON of fun people i don't believe that. i really just don't. im okay with you doing it, but im pretty sure people break they're legs skydiving frequently. actually, im SURE that its not safer than crossing the street! are you being serious? how on EARTH could that be possible!? :laugh: again, i don't doubt that its okay for YOU to do it.. i just.. really!? safer than crossing the street!? no diss..
RobM Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 no risk to it safer than crossing the street. Plus you'll meet a TON of fun people You've never seen me cross a street!!!!
skydiveaddict Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 You've never seen me cross a street!!!! There are exceptions of course
skydiveaddict Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 i don't believe that. i really just don't. im okay with you doing it, but im pretty sure people break they're legs skydiving frequently. actually, im SURE that its not safer than crossing the street! are you being serious? how on EARTH could that be possible!? :laugh: again, i don't doubt that its okay for YOU to do it.. i just.. really!? safer than crossing the street!? no diss.. more people get killed crossing the street every year, than from skydiving it's a fact
SpanksTheMonkey Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 more people get killed crossing the street every year, than from skydiving I bet more people cross the street then skydive tho! Anyhoo to answer the ops original question I say at malls/shopping thats were I met my current partner..
skydiveaddict Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 (edited) I bet more people cross the street then skydive tho! Anyhoo to answer the ops original question I say at malls/shopping thats were I met my current partner.. Details, details. The mall idea sounds like a good one. Ok: here's a tried and true way to meet women (or men). Buy a golden retriever puppy and take him to the coffee shop. It cant miss Edited May 1, 2010 by skydiveaddict
RobM Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 More people probably die every year from falling off toilets than skydiving but that doesn't stop people from....
skydiveaddict Posted May 1, 2010 Posted May 1, 2010 More people probably die every year from falling off toilets than skydiving but that doesn't stop people from.... See? just look at how safe it is!!
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