Cristoforo Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Can a woman be interested in you and yet not make it obvious? If they are not making it obvious does it mean they aren't interested? The woman I like is very receptive and friendly towards me, and I think I've picked up maybe some signals of interest, but I'm not 100 percent sure. Are there women out there who even if they want a guy to ask them out, won't make it obvious and give off tons of signs? I just fear rejection so I wish I would get clearer signs. And girls, when a guy asks you out and you reject him for whatever reason, do you view that guy as some kind of creep? I see this person regularly so I wouldn't want them to view me in a negative light if they did end up shooting me down. I'm a really nice guy and my intentions are good. And do you think I should just go for it and ask this girl out? I mean, we've talked a few times but we really don't know each other that well. But we always make eye contact and smile and greet each other everytime we see each other. I'm just not detecting obvious signs of interest, and maybe she's giving them and I just don't know. Fear of rejection is the only thing preventing me from asking, I would have done it weeks ago.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Yes, women are not always good at communicating their true desires. She might think she is being obvious and giving you clear signs that she thinks you are picking up on. You won't know unless you ask her out. Not all women are going to be blaringly obvious in their interest in you. Some are more reserved when it comes to that.
Romance Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Some women are shy and some women don't want to seem too overpowering, so they don't leave off big signs. I am like this, I can be very interested in a guy but show no signs except interest when they talk, etc. I just don't want to look like a sad puppy doting on every word that comes out of a guys mouth.
Lizzie60 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Nope.. just like men don't always give obvious signs that they are interested... same thing..
Author Cristoforo Posted April 29, 2010 Author Posted April 29, 2010 So should I just take a risk and ask this girl out? I just fear rejection and I really don't know what to say or how to ask her out.
phineas Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 So should I just take a risk and ask this girl out? I just fear rejection and I really don't know what to say or how to ask her out. Ask her out. the only way to stop fearing rejection is to experiance it full on. I can honestly say now that I fear not knowing if i'm passing up an opportunity more than being shut down.
Mary3 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Kiss her... Does she seem repulsed ? Or does she smile ?
hopesndreams Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 I'm just not detecting obvious signs of interest If the signs aren't there, it's a no go. Yes, women give signs, obvious signs of interest. You'll know em when you see em.
i'mfaraway Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I don't give off obvious signals because I'm bordering on shy. My friends sometimes would think "how do you think he's going to know you're interested?" I would say "but I did this and that and that's being obvious." They would go "huh? Obvious? To who?" So there are different opinions to how obvious some things are.
Eeyore79 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Yes, women can be interested and not make it obvious, especially if they're shy. You're looking for stuff like: Initiating contact Playing with her hair Acting jealous if you mention another girl Touching you Making eye contact Facing her body towards you while talking Leaning in towards you Maybe try this: Sit next to her and put her hand casually on your arm or knee, and let go. If she leaves her hand there, she's interested. If she pulls her hand away, she isn't interested.
start-fresh Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Maybe try this: Sit next to her and put her hand casually on your arm or knee, and let go. If she leaves her hand there, she's interested. If she pulls her hand away, she isn't interested. I agree with your post for the most part but what has been the results of you doing this in the past?
Eeyore79 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 As long as you continue talking about something completely unrelated and non-sexual, the other person hardly even notices what you've done. If you feel uncomfortable doing that, simply put your hand out while talking about something completely unrelated and see if she takes hold of it or not. If she doesn't take your hand, or takes her hand away, give her some negative body language - turn slightly away, look briefly around the room, cross your legs away from her. If she likes you even a little bit she will probably try to get you re-interested in her, it's natural human behaviour. So when she does that, reward her with some positive body language, then try the hand thing again... she'll probably be much more likely to be comfortable touching you the second time around. Note: Don't just grab her hand if there's been no prior touching, you'll freak her out. Build up her comfort with touch by nudging her playfully, touching her lower back, even briefly putting your arm round her shoulder. Then try the hand thing.
EasyHeart Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 So should I just take a risk and ask this girl out? I just fear rejection and I really don't know what to say or how to ask her out. Look at it this way: If you DON'T ask her out, you are guaranteed to never have a date with her. If you DO ask her out, you might get turned down, or you might get a date. Asking her out is the only option with any upside.
counterman Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 I agree with what most posters are saying. If you don't go for it and ask her out, you've already failed. Might as well take a chance even if it means you may be rejected. I am terrible at reading signs anyway, so I tend to just ask a girl out if we're having a good conversation and I am attracted to her. Although, sometimes signs are really obvious but I've only noticed this from girls I am not interested in.
alphamale Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Can a woman be interested in you and yet not make it obvious? yes .
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