name witheld Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Hi folks. I haven't posted on here for months but I would say that I still miss my ex. Indeed still love her, although it doesn't hurt anymore and I'm not at the mercy of emotions like in the initial stages of a breakup. Have been in NC for about 4 months and have been getting on with my life, seeing new women and actually feel like I have developed so much as a person. I moved away from my home town and now work abroad (something I always wanted to do) yet still find myself missing her. Somenights I still dream about her. Back home just now and spent some time with an old girlfriend, which was fun although I suspect it has raised some feelings of attraction in her (and me to a degree) as she saw how I have grown in our years apart. I don't think this has helped the situation in terms of feelings towards ex as I'm finding myself missing her more now. All I want to do is show her this new person that I have become. What is going on?
northstar1 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Healing is not linear. You can be making progress and then take a step back. However, usually the pause between moving forward again lessens each time. Memories of our ex's are often imprinted into a lot of memories in our brains and can easily be recalled by other events triggers. It's very common. With my last breakup, I was doing better, than hit a wall and began missing her again 6 months later. However, I didn't stay stuck for long and neither will you.
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