ex will be at engagement party

[jude007]

Seeing my ex for this first time tomorrow, have mixed feelings, - guess the question is - how do you handle it? any advise.

 

We split 2 months (engaged 6 months) , ago after 7 yrs.... she dumped me, not because she didnt love me, but because we never sorted the small things out, and thy then in turn became big.

 

I asked to see her since, and she said no - she wasnt ready.

[TaraMaiden]

well, I would ignore her (thereby acceding to her request for her to 'not see you') and just chat to others. Just nod in her direction, then keep talking to somebody else.

if she approaches you, wait for her to say something.

Hi.

Hi. (then shut up).

How are you?

Fine. (then shut up).

So.... what have you been up to?

The usual. (then shut up).

She may now realise you're being monosyllabic....and she'll play the little injured waif, and say

Why are you being like this?

or

Don't you want to talk to me?

or

Is something the matter?

 

to which you reply -

You're the one who didn't want to talk to me, remember?

And then, move away from her.

 

It's cruel, it's harsh and it will hurt.

But it will make matters very clear, and enable you to move on.

What she thinks of you, is not your concern.

It will be her problem.

You take care of you.

That's where your priority lies now.

[name witheld]

too soon, keep away.

unless its your friends then she should keep away.

[jude007]

its my good mate, who I got her best friend together with. Funny how we split up they get engaged.... well not so funny... the wedding overseas - which means a week of seeing her - if things have not worked themselves out - which I doubt.

 

She is also going to be bridesmaid.

 

I guess I just have to deal with it, as you cant change who your mate is going to marry, or her friends!

 

Theres a good neyo song - i think about when I think about being sad with her - GO on GiRL - specially the video!