Whitefox123 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 I'm not going to lie, I'm really bad about reading too much into things and I tend to jump to conclusions way faster than I should. I am not sure if I'm jumping to conclusions now, or if I should just assume that I've been 'dumped' I met this guy online about a month ago. We hit it off really well, and I was really looking forward to getting to know him. We went out on two dates and both were a great time. We talked about going out again and agreed that we liked what we knew about each other thus far. As of this weekend, I still felt like things were going good. On monday we talked briefly via computer but he told me he was getting ready to head out when I messaged him so the conversation was cut short...I wasn't too worried about it. Well last night I sent him an IM and I think he ignored it. There is a chance he may have been having computer trouble or just never got it. I realize that he's probably not sitting in front of his computer 24/7 nor would I expect him to respond to me the second I send something. Anyway, my friends were asking me what was going on between us and I told them pretty much everything I had said here...that I was kinda bummed we hadn't talked but not terribly worried about it. They told me to send him an email (or call) and see if he'd be interested in making future plans. So although I was kind of nervous about it (I don't want to come across as clingy because that's not me AT ALL) I sent him an email (I am a little akward on the phone and didn't want to put him on the spot in case he did answer). Well, I know for a fact the email was read right away but it wasn't responded to it. So this now makes me question things...especially because I thought things were going so well! I mean, I figure he wouldn't have even responded to me on monday if he didn't want to talk. It just happened so suddenly and I don't know what to think. When we first started talking, he didn't respond to one of my emails for 4 days...and I didn't make a big fuss out of it because I know he's probably busy. I just feel like it's different now since we've met and expressed interest in each other. I plan to leave it alone and let him come back to me if he wants to talk but it's still very frustrating. Could he be playing hard to get...or is he just not that into me? Anyone else ever go through this?
ComeUndone Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 He could just be busy but the truth is that if he were interested he would be making some effort. I think you're coming on a little strong. It sucks that these games sometimes need to be played in the beginning, but many guys don't "respect" the gal putting in all the work. It tells him he's got you. Mind you there are guys who love this sort of attention and maybe someone like that is a better match for you anyway, but you definitely don't want to come on too strong in the beginning. Don't contact him anymore...let him come to you. If he does, don't respond right away. Make yourself hard to pin down. Be elusive. Oh and you can't be "dumped" at this stage.... you've only gone on 2 dates with him! Dumped is a bit heavy.
Author Whitefox123 Posted April 29, 2010 Author Posted April 29, 2010 See, I was worried about coming on too strong too...but everyone i told the story to said to try one more time. I now feel like an ass.... the thing is, I'm not normally this easy to 'catch'. Oh well, lesson learned...I guess i'd better find that balance between not enough and too much communication. I couldn't think of a better word than 'dumped' at the time btw.
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