shygal1 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Long story short, my ex bf came back after two years of silence. Said he made a big mistake and I was his biggest regret. He came back saying he had a lot to make up to me. For 3 months he has showed me he has not changed much. We bicker and argue and he does not communicate well. I deleted him on facebook due to a misunderstanding i thought he was online dating. he said it was before me, so he deleted it and I forgave him.. I didn't add him back because i don't like the facebook drama. Well yesterday i randomly looked on his page and saw his main picture with a girl he used to have sex with. I texted him in anger and was very upset. He told me she is a friend and coworker. He has very few pictures on his page and it just looked off. Maybe he wanted a reaction out of me. I expressed me feelings poorly because of the anger, but i did say him going out with her made me uncomfortable and that he should respect my feelings. He replied his friends are his friends if i dont like him chillen with them then we shouldn't talk. After he claims he loves me more than anything. He told me to take care. I overreacted if i dont like it to bad. He's not playing my games. I then said to him ok bye, and he said bye, and we have had no contact so far for one day. What should i do, I loved him for ever and i waited 2 yrs for him to come to his senses. To give up what we have over some slut girl he slept with is insane.
starwolf242 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Don't give up what you had over some random girl. Give up what you had because he's a jackass. You said yourself he hasn't changed. If you were his biggest mistake why would he be responding in a way that risks losing you again? i say kick his dumb ass to the curb, realise you can do better and that he'll never change. He knew he made a mistake before, if he realises his behaviour has resulted in the same mistake it's his loss. You move on to bigger and better and he'll have to regret his actions forever. i think you know deep down that you don't need all this drama
Author shygal1 Posted April 29, 2010 Author Posted April 29, 2010 thank u very much !! it's hard to be in love with a jackass. you are right. do u think he will contact me, so i can mentally prepare to not be sucked back in.
starwolf242 Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 He probably will contact you. He'll promise he'll change, that he understands what made you get annoyed but then nothing will be any different. The more you take him back the more he will know he can abuse your good nature. I know it's hard to be in love with a jackass. I'm in love with one myself. But at the end of the day they are jackasses and if you remove love from the equation, would you really still let him do this to you? Love should be something that helps you and compliments you, not something that makes you accept poor behaviour.
jthorne Posted April 30, 2010 Posted April 30, 2010 Yep, there's a reason you turned him loose the first time. Looks like nothing's changed. Further, it solidifies my theory that Facebook's only purpose in the dating world is so you can keep tabs on your exes after you break up. My mom always said, "getting back together with an ex is like putting on a pair of dirty underwear. You should always start fresh."
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