pnk Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago and in the process hurt him badly...and since then I have horribly regretted it. I want him back and I realized how foolish I was to end the relationship. I called him on monday because I wanted to talk things with him he came over and told me that he had never been hurt like that before and that he could only see me as a friend. He also said that he had started to get to know a girl from his job 2 weeks ago. And every time he has the chance he briefly mentions her and makes sure I hear him, he also texts me while he is with her. During our break up we have gone out and acted as if we were still together which is why I think he is only doing this because he is hurt, I want to know what can I do to have him back in my life...
alphamale Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 there is really nothing you can do right now. but maybe in the future when he decides what he wants. you hurt him pretty bad and he probably wants to hurt you now
skydiveaddict Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 there is really nothing you can do right now. but maybe in the future when he decides what he wants. you hurt him pretty bad and he probably wants to hurt you now agreed...........................
TaraMaiden Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Ok, here's my two penn'orth.... Whenever a dumped member comes in saying that their ex (who dumped them) keeps contacting them, asking questions like "Howya doing?" "Whatcha doing" and "I just thought I'd say hi", I tell them that the dumper is yanking their chain, feeding them breadcrumbs and keeping them on a back-burner. The only message from a dumper, that they should ever respond to, is this one. "I am so, so sorry. I bitterly regret my actions and realise how stupid and foolish I was to do what I did. I love you, I desperately want you back, and will do whatever it takes, for as long as it takes, to regain your trust. I just pray you can forgive me, and would love to be given another chance. Please can we talk about it?, because if there is the slightest chance you would reconsider, I'll jump at it. Do I have a chance?" I suggest if you are serious, that you tell him exactly that. But be warned: if he says no, do not settle for the friend-Zone. It will merely prolong your agony and (it seems) just give him more fuel with which to deliberately hurt you. Send him that, await a reply and go with it. But if he says no - don't agree to see him again, unless his pants are on fire. go No Contact (see my signature) and leave him be.
Perhaps Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 Let him know you're sorry and everything you feel - in one sitting. Then, tell him if it's upto him to decide. If he says yes to you, good; if not, wish him luck and move on. I know it's black-or-white advice but I've been through all the shades of grey and they got me nowhere. In the end, that's the only thing you can do - do let him know you're sorry for hurting him and that you'd do anything to fix it. Good luck.
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