Became great friends after 4 months NC. Now back in NC and REGRETFUL

[Fiaman]

Background story- Went out from December 2007-June 2008, tried gettin her back until I found out she had a new bf in December 2008. Initiated NC in January 2009 and ended up talkin slowly again in May 2009 when she didn't have a boyfriend anymore.

 

All I can say is this past summer, her and I became really close to each other, closer than we were when we even went out. I started to fall back in love with her again, and only felt it right to get take another shot at love with her again. We talked about slowly dating again and seeing where things would lead BUT I made it sure that I wanted to make sure she was over her last BF befored we did that. So we became really good friends from June 2009-December 2009.

 

Well I found out that she had a new boyfriend in December 2009 which she had been hiding from me (once again) and I was ok with it until...

 

I texted her "I'm happy for you even though I'm suprised we never got back together"

She then texted "Im suprised we didn't get back together either"

 

At that point it hit me. I could've had this girl as my girlfriend again, someone I became so close to and compatiable with but now lost her to someone else. So for the next few months up until March this year, we been arguing back and forth until I finally cut contact in the middle of March.

 

Man I'm filled with regrets and "what if's"

 

Should I be feeling this way? I mean if she really wanted to try again, she would have dumped her new boyfriend and tried with me when she found out how I truly felt right? I don't know. I just been kickin myself a lot lately about this and feel down.

[EmperorR]

Background story- Went out from December 2007-June 2008, tried gettin her back until I found out she had a new bf in December 2008. Initiated NC in January 2009 and ended up talkin slowly again in May 2009 when she didn't have a boyfriend anymore.

 

All I can say is this past summer, her and I became really close to each other, closer than we were when we even went out. I started to fall back in love with her again, and only felt it right to get take another shot at love with her again. We talked about slowly dating again and seeing where things would lead BUT I made it sure that I wanted to make sure she was over her last BF befored we did that. So we became really good friends from June 2009-December 2009.

 

Well I found out that she had a new boyfriend in December 2009 which she had been hiding from me (once again) and I was ok with it until...

 

I texted her "I'm happy for you even though I'm suprised we never got back together"

She then texted "Im suprised we didn't get back together either"

 

At that point it hit me. I could've had this girl as my girlfriend again, someone I became so close to and compatiable with but now lost her to someone else. So for the next few months up until March this year, we been arguing back and forth until I finally cut contact in the middle of March.

 

Man I'm filled with regrets and "what if's"

 

Should I be feeling this way? I mean if she really wanted to try again, she would have dumped her new boyfriend and tried with me when she found out how I truly felt right? I don't know. I just been kickin myself a lot lately about this and feel down.

 

 

You got Friend ZONED!!

[Fiaman]

I'm not quite sure that was the case. She had told me that she would check my Facebook daily and get jealous of girls posting on my wall (one in particular) and her friend told her to give someone else a chance because she had thought I was going after one of these other girls. I don't know, it's a really ****ty situation.

 

Idk if I should befriend her again because I do miss her as a friend but I can't stand the fact of being 2nd in her life.

[lvixen]

I wouldn't regret a single thing. She played you. Maybe she was bored or lonely or needed an ego boost from you. You gave it to her. If she had wanted you back would she have gone out with her next boyfriend? Her telling you she is surprised you two didn't get back together too is her way of playing games. She wants to keep you around in case it doesn't work out with her current boyfriend. STOP being second in her life and go back to no contact, this time for good. She is NO good for you!

[sphx26]

Going on NC is the best way to go, along with proactively doing something to move on with your life. i.e: get busy, get a hobby, date someone else(only when you are truly ready). I'd have to agree that going on NC is for you, and not to get your ex back.

[Fiaman]

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

 

She would have said something if she wanted me back. You guys are correct.

 

From what I hear, she despises me now (because I can one day go from being great friends, to me finding out she has a new bf and I straight up go NC)

 

Not my problem, now she's playing her OTHER ex! Now, they are friends again even though she's in a relationship with another guy. Is this normal???