Blinky Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 (edited) Where to start, first off im new to the forums (i searched someone on Google and it directed me here, i lurked around for a few days and figured you all might be my answer in waiting), and ive been in a committed relationship with a single mom for 7 months, we have a bit of an age gap (im 25, she is 34) and we live 2 hours apart but see each other almost weekly, sometimes twice a week. I work full time and she currently on disability, we have a pretty good relationship overall, her son doesn’t really like me much but he coming around. We have done some good and bad things in our relationship but we are deeply in love and most of the time things are good. until the last month or so, I find that we argue allot and over stupid small things, she says im controlling and I am to a point, but I enjoy routine part of our relationship, being 2 hours apart, I enjoy talking to her at night before she goes to bed, up until past 2-3 weeks, things are always the same, but lately she doesn’t want to call me but when she calls keeps it to 10-15 mins or we will argue, yes I do control her abit and I don’t mean too. I just miss her alot and overall it’s just hard being apart. we use to talk alot more but i scaled it back because she felt her time with her son was being neglected and i agreed. so idk i know there alot more to the story to get the real picture clear but overall we have been fine for 6 months, but last month or so we argue more (stupid stuff) and for past week she says she just doesn’t want to talk because we always end up arguing and ive been changing how i do stuff (i no longer push her to talk more, i let her go when she wants and all that) im just really missing my girlfriend and i want us back to where we were before. Edited April 28, 2010 by Blinky re-do
Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 HArd to answer without knowing the whole situation. Obviously you want to make things right. Best thing to do is identify what you are controlling about? Is it who she hangs out with, when she talks to you. Essentially what are you doing that's controlling. If you are arguing about stupid ****, stop arguing. Are you arguing to force your opinion or thoughts or are you arguing just to make conversation. I ran into a similar situation and of course the relationship ended but ultimatle yo will need to take a step back. Talk about les serious stuff and make more jokes.
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