Kaplan Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I'm in the market for a new dvd player and I thought I might buy this Playstation 3 from a guy because they make good dvd players and you can play games on them too (I don't own any video games though.) Anyway, I thought of a funny question: would owning video games lower a girl's opinion of a guy? I know lots of women that are always complaining about their boyfriends and husbands playing too many games, so if a woman comes into your house and sees games she must think of all the relationships where that's been an issue for her and wonder if you're like those other guys. I don't think the answer to this question will affect my decision one way or another; I just think it's a funny question.
Engadget Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Unless they're stupid, no. I love video games and always will. Many women play them now as well, and many women with boyfriends have them. It's not like it was when I started playing them years ago, where it was relegated to nerds and outcasts. Everyone does it now. Hell, if someone plays something on their iPhone they're gaming, although casually.
Peaceful Guy Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I'm in the market for a new dvd player and I thought I might buy this Playstation 3 from a guy because they make good dvd players and you can play games on them too (I don't own any video games though.) Anyway, I thought of a funny question: would owning video games lower a girl's opinion of a guy? I know lots of women that are always complaining about their boyfriends and husbands playing too many games, so if a woman comes into your house and sees games she must think of all the relationships where that's been an issue for her and wonder if you're like those other guys. I don't think the answer to this question will affect my decision one way or another; I just think it's a funny question. i personally can't stand watching people play some droning first person fantasy bull****.. so im sure girls don't want to sit around doing that either.. on the flipside, they are usually very enthusiastic about playing a quick game of pacman or super mario! just don't make them sit there while you play it and its cool..
123BeachFan Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Owning video games doesn't make a man less attractive. Living & breathing video games does make a man less attractive.
CarrieT Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 It probably depends on your age. I'm in my late 40s and if I saw a guy my age with a video game player (this, assuming he had not children), would raise red flags for me. But I know I'm an anomaly and tended to date the more cerebral type; those with a wall of books moreso than a wall of DVD movies...
Engadget Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 It probably depends on your age. I'm in my late 40s and if I saw a guy my age with a video game player (this, assuming he had not children), would raise red flags for me. But I know I'm an anomaly and tended to date the more cerebral type; those with a wall of books moreso than a wall of DVD movies... This type of thinking is antiquated, I'm sorry. I own hundreds upon hundreds of books, DVD's, movies and video games. They aren't mutually exclusive, and the older crowd games more than ever. Gaming is a daily, mainstream thing now and will only become more so.
zebracolors Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 As a woman and a PC gamer myself I may be biased. My former LDR fellow was also a PC gamer.(how we met) But I think if a woman is going to frown on that just because she does not play, it makes her kind of shallow and maybe not a woman you want to be with. Part of a relationship is compromise and respect of the other's interests and hobbies. If a woman really likes you she should not mind that you are a gamer even if she isn't, because maybe in all other aspects you fit well together, get on great and really enjoy time with each other. You never know, some women might be more open minded about it to try getting into it as well, because they want to have activities to do with the guy they really like.
Romance Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 no. I don't even really know a guy who doesn't own a ps3. Unless it consumes your life, who cares. video games can be fun, plus its something to do in your downtime instead of watching tv. I can appreciate some video games.
Sazerac Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I am a casual gamer (PC, not console) and have several favorite games. I'm also mid-40's and know a couple of septuagenarians who play regularly (one male, one female), so age is not a consideration here. If anyone would consider my behavior jejune because I play games, I would consider their attitude a greater deal-breaker. I've noticed that a lot of people who look askance at gamers are those who sit on their posteriors in front of TV's for hours on end. NEWS FLASH: games aren't just for kids anymore, and most games being produced nowadays are targeted for an older market. Having said that, games are certainly not my be-all, end-all. I have many more interests and am much more likely to be found out and about than holed-in on a game. To each his/her own, but to me, an open mind to any different experience is far more satisfying than the closed-minded, judgmental attitudes I tend to see from others.
sally4sara Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Linda Carter (Wonder Woman TV fame) is married to a game designer at Bethesda Software. He used her image in one of my favorite games. She didn't seem to find gamer guys unattractive. Nor did the woman my friend married. He met her through an online gaming forum. If one doesn't like - they are not the one for you.
Author Kaplan Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 I guess my thought was just that since there are so many guys who just play games all the time and neglect their wives and everything, a girl must wonder if you're going to turn out to be that kind of guy when she sees your ps3.
O'Malley Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Owning video games doesn't make a man less attractive. Living & breathing video games does make a man less attractive. The above. I have friends who frequently game and that's great for them, but I prefer dating someone who's not particularly interested in it -- that, and golf. If it's something they're passionate about, I'm not going to be compatible with them. It's just arbitrary criteria.
flc Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 It probably depends on your age. I'm in my late 40s and if I saw a guy my age with a video game player (this, assuming he had not children), would raise red flags for me. But I know I'm an anomaly and tended to date the more cerebral type; those with a wall of books moreso than a wall of DVD movies... That seems kind of silly, I'm 52 and I have a PS3. I enjoy movies and I do game sometimes with the kids and a sometimes by myself. Like anything if you can use things to add to your life or detract from it. I also always have a book I am reading, these things don't have to be mutally exclusive. Love a good online bout of MW2
Sazerac Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Linda Carter (Wonder Woman TV fame) is married to a game designer at Bethesda Software. He used her image in one of my favorite games. She didn't seem to find gamer guys unattractive. Nor did the woman my friend married. He met her through an online gaming forum. If one doesn't like - they are not the one for you. Lynda Carter's not only married to a Bethesda Studio game designer; she's also one of the voice actresses in The Elder Scrolls games. I agree fully with the bolded sentiment.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Well i got alot of video games but i get out the house when i have something to do. Also the playstation is a blu-ray player not just a dvd player. You might need a hd tv to maximize the benefits of it, if you buy it. Video games make you less attractive only if you become obsessed with it.
USMCHokie Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I agree with all of you...if a woman can't deal with the fact that I own video games, then good riddance if she leaves...I have no problem if it's something she's not interested in...then it just becomes my own thing outside of the relationship...ironically, I don't think I ever once touched any of my video games while I was dating my ex...
BlueHarvest Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 While I agree that owning video games doesn't make anyone less attractive...I do find it ironic people here say "living and breathing video games DOES". If you look around you, you'll see people live and breath some of their hobbies. They'll play golf, tennis, go read books, go rock climbing, skydiving ( Haha, sorry I had to put that in there SDAddict..), traveling...But they don't get ostracized because these are considered "normal obsessions". It's not really a fair view. Gamers still get ostracized but the gap is closing somewhat.
CarrieT Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 That seems kind of silly, I'm 52 and I have a PS3. I enjoy movies and I do game sometimes with the kids and a sometimes by myself. Like anything if you can use things to add to your life or detract from it. I also always have a book I am reading, these things don't have to be mutally exclusive. Whether silly or not, we all have standards by which we attract or repel other people. Would you be attracted to a 50-year old woman who still collected and played with Barbie dolls or Teddy Bears? Maybe you would or maybe you would think it a childish hobby. She might hold down a fine corporate job and be everything else you want in a woman. But having childish tendencies or hobbies TO ME, usually indicates there are other, more deep-seated issues. Of course this would not be the same in every person, but enough so that it would raise red flags for me. If you look around you, you'll see people live and breath some of their hobbies. They'll play golf, tennis, go read books, go rock climbing, skydiving ( Haha, sorry I had to put that in there SDAddict..), traveling...But they don't get ostracized because these are considered "normal obsessions". It's not really a fair view. Gamers still get ostracized but the gap is closing somewhat. I believe that is because these other "normal" hobbies are activities that benefit people in various ways; rock climbing, skydiving, tennis, and golf are all physical activities that keep one healthy. Reading books expands one's mind. There are very few benefits to video games and -- weather fortunate or not -- there is a predilection that video gamers have less defined social skills.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 And some people who are gamers lead very nice lives. Jimmy fallon, Conan O'brien, Alot of athletes. Barbie dolls are childish and the equivalent of that for a man would be action figures. Video games is gender neutral. The only time it should be a down is if they are obsessed with it. If it's a recreational thing. Like it's winter time and everything is closed and nothing's on. Then fine burn a few hours playing nba live. Some times that's all it's for. burning time when you aint got nothing better to do.
Engadget Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Whether silly or not, we all have standards by which we attract or repel other people. Would you be attracted to a 50-year old woman who still collected and played with Barbie dolls or Teddy Bears? Maybe you would or maybe you would think it a childish hobby. She might hold down a fine corporate job and be everything else you want in a woman. But having childish tendencies or hobbies TO ME, usually indicates there are other, more deep-seated issues. Of course this would not be the same in every person, but enough so that it would raise red flags for me. I believe that is because these other "normal" hobbies are activities that benefit people in various ways; rock climbing, skydiving, tennis, and golf are all physical activities that keep one healthy. Reading books expands one's mind. There are very few benefits to video games and -- weather fortunate or not -- there is a predilection that video gamers have less defined social skills. Video games are childish? That's not true, at all. Also to say they have no benefits is flat out wrong as well. Golf keeps you healthy? You don't have to be healthy to golf, at all. Look at John Daly. It's more of a mental game than an actual physical one.
BlueHarvest Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I believe that is because these other "normal" hobbies are activities that benefit people in various ways; rock climbing, skydiving, tennis, and golf are all physical activities that keep one healthy. Reading books expands one's mind. There are very few benefits to video games and -- weather fortunate or not -- there is a predilection that video gamers have less defined social skills. First off, I'm a gamer. Second, I think some of the most beautiful music I've ever listened to have come from video games, not music CD's. I think some of the best storylines I've ever come across have come from video games, not books or movies. Yet people who read books, watch movies, or listen to music all the time are considered to be "normal". As for the social skills, I think there's a grain of truth in there. While I do believe that the internet has created a rather unfortunate trend of creating kids with poor social skills, it still has a social aspect to it. Let me state that by "poor social skills" I don't mean their ability to function, but their ability to discern the correct statements to say in certain situations, and their lack of tactfulness at certain times. Video games are childish? That's not true, at all. Also to say they have no benefits is flat out wrong as well. Golf keeps you healthy? You don't have to be healthy to golf, at all. Look at John Daly. It's more of a mental game than an actual physical one. True, really can't add anymore to this. Also it's been proven that some outdoor activities are only popular because they have been around for so long, gaming hasn't been around as long.
Author Kaplan Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 I believe that is because these other "normal" hobbies are activities that benefit people in various ways Video games benefit people. They help to develop your reflexes . . . probably.
northstar1 Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 I'm in my 30's and play video games and it's never been an issue. now if i chose to play them instead of hanging out with a girl i was dating, then that's a problem. to me, it's entertainment and often a good method of stress relief. but i always find it odd when people look down on people who play video games, but then see no problem watching 3 hours of tv a night.
spookie Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 past playing rock band with my baby brother, i doubt ill ever get into video games. personally, i prefer guys with more practical interests.
CarrieT Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 but i always find it odd when people look down on people who play video games, but then see no problem watching 3 hours of tv a night. Let me clarify this; I don't look down on people who play video games just like I don't look down on people who attend football games, ride motorcycles, or smoke cigarettes. But if a guy is interested in those sorts of activities, than he is probably not a guy that would interest me. If you don't like a girl who is into perfume, Tom Cruise, mani-pedis, or scrapbooking, than you probably wouldn't date her. The OP asked if owning a video game makes a guy less attractive to women and, yes, for SOME women it does. Just like lots of other "guy" things are unattractive to SOME women.
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