northstar1 Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Between the agony and trauma of the actual breakup, and the following weeks while you struggle with making sense of it all, and trying to maintain NC..................that lull........and where you can feel the ex slipping away and becoming a perfect stranger again. It always makes me think of the Dylan Thomas poem and "Rage, Rage against the dying of the Light" and how your instinct is to fight against the darkness that creeps in after you breakup. Where you are torn between two worlds. The one you are watching slowly receed that included your ex, and the new one you will face. Where you are filled with anxiety about if you should reach out, and the battle to maintain your dignity when it becomes apparent your ex no longer wants to try and is moving on. Such a battle that goes on in our minds......it is truly exhausting.
TaraMaiden Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Do not go gentle into that Goodnight..... look upon it as a refusal to be beaten, a refusal to be cowed.... There is so much wonder in poetry.. Invictus, for example, stirs me to hot tears, especially when you know what torment and suffering the author knew.... Sorry. didn't mean to slew the topic in a different direction, but poets say so much evocatively. This is why we quote them. they put all the emotions we feel into a neatly-worded wonderful piece of jewellery.
monkeymaid Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 here here. ...and just when you think those feelings are gone and you are about to walk out into the light, it was just a break in the wall where the damn cave turns
DenverBachelor Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 It always makes me think of the Dylan Thomas poem and "Rage, Rage against the dying of the Light" and how your instinct is to fight against the darkness that creeps in after you breakup. Where you are torn between two worlds. The one you are watching slowly receed that included your ex, and the new one you will face. One of the problems of being merely human is the inability to see all points in time simultaneously. We place the most emphasis on the present and forget that time is ever-flowing and that we are ever-adapting. It takes a long time to understand that what we once thought was darkness creeping in was really a change in our own inner-light. If we see darkness, it is merely because we've chosen to shut our eyes to the moment because of seemingly unbearable pain. There is always light even in the darkest of times, but when we sit with eyes closed, of course we cannot see it. No point in time really holds more significance than another. We're just stuck with a linear perception of change instead of having the ability to understand and see that cause and effect swings in both directions.
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