Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I have known this woman for a while and I eventually asked her out and we made plans and prior to that we would text everyday for hours and we finally when on our first date which was great it ended up lasting almost ll day and we had a blast. I easily secured a second date and even a third date. The thing is now, she rarely texts me. Before the first date it was non-stop and now I am lucky to get a few replies to mine. Has she lost interest or is the mystery gone and she is just doing her thing now? I was thinking about just not texting a while and see what she does, if she initiates contact. I just dont want to appear overbearing and perhaps she needs a little break from the first date. I assume that if she wasnt interested she wouldnt have asaid yes to seeing me again. what are your thoughts. I might be over analyzing things.
Sivok Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Schedule plans for a second date and find out how she reacts. If somebody is interested in you they will want to see you again. Just take the initiative and if she doesn't bite, move on. I've had plenty of dates where I felt they went great but the person then fell off the face of the earth. It could be an attraction issue, or atleast that's what I place it as.
DustySaltus Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 This happens to the best of us. The easiest thing to do at this point is move forward like it's over and let her be the one to contact you.
phineas Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 See if she bails on the 2nd date. If she does & doesn't reschedule just move on. Let her come to you. If she's trying to play the busy game or seeing if you'll chase her she'll change her strategy real quick if she is interested & see's your loosing interest.
Author Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 she already said yes to a second date which is happening this week and she already said yes to a third date for the weekend, just not sure why she slowed the communication down so much, thats what I am confused about. She has even told people who hav tried to make plans that she already has the so i dont think she is planning on bailing
Sivok Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 In that case I wouldn't read too much into it. I think it was a mistake on your part to schedule a third date before even going out on a second. It shows too much interest and it sounds like she already has you wrapped around her finger... and she's noticing it
Author Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 ya ill just back off and play it cool. let her come to me i suppose.I guess i was just concerned about her losing interest
phineas Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 ya ill just back off and play it cool. let her come to me i suppose.I guess i was just concerned about her losing interest you need to train yourself to not worry if someone is loosing interest. You need to recognize if they loose interest it is ok because they are not the one for you & NEXT! It's something i'm forcing myself to learn & i truely do have less anxiety in my life for it.
Sivok Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Exactly like Phineas said! Not only will it make your life less stressful, but the woman will actually find you more attractive because of it. You make her want to try to attract you too, since there's still mystery on how you feel about her. In other words, she should be just as concerned about you losing interest as you are about her, haha. The key to that is not jumping the gun
Author Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 She finally did text me but it was a reply to a message I sen last night. Atleast she said something. Anyways like you guys said Ill leave it alone. Ill tell her shes acting wierd lol and what time I am picking her up and thats it. Dont know why dating has to be so complicated lol
Sivok Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Good call, but leave out the 'she's acting weird' part.
Author Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 haha ya i was joking, as much as i want to say it thats a definite no no. Just got another reply, apparently shes doing all the girl stuff nails hair etc. anyway thanks for the tips im sure ill be back
Author Ihavenoidea Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 (edited) So kind of an update I was scrolling through my text log and see what the big differences there are before and after our date. I asked her out and we scheduled something for a week later and in between then and the first date was almost non stop texting almost a 100 or so sometimes more. we joked back and forth a lot and when we would say good night she would throw out an "xoxox" type of thing. So after the first date she said she had a blast and I asked if we could do it again and said yes so we scheduled another date. Well looking at my texts now, I pretty much dont get any from her. I had more texts on every individual day than I have for this whole week combined. She always gives me a reason why she hasnt text but it is practically night and day from before ur first date and afer. Yes she still wants to meet for a second. WTF? I dont know, I personally think its really odd and its obviously bothering me so I said if she doesnt want to go out tomorrow she doesnt have to I dont want her to feel obligated. I gave her an out so if she takes it she takes it but if not ok, this is too much non-sense for me. Edited April 28, 2010 by Ihavenoidea
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