Do you lend your SO your things?

[SpanksTheMonkey]

I'm a bit miffed at my partner lately because Ive lent him my new 400 cell phone and since then I now need a new headset as he broke the wire and pretty much wrecked it completely!

 

And as if thats not bad enough I went to check it today and when you turn on the MP3 player now it sounds raspy at 1st!!!!! needless to say I was SO annoyed

 

But he just didn't seam to see were this is not right of him! I don't want to start a fight over it but yea its def not cool. Mind you he had his own abeit much cheaper not as nice cell.

 

But he still asked to borrow mine as he liked the radio function in it how would you handle this situation? His has sense completely died from what I suspect is water damage from walking in the rain with the pone in his pocket.

 

Now I'm letting him use mine for a week and Ive offered to even buy him another cheep phone when I get payed. To that he got mad and said we shouldn't be spending money like that!

 

And for me to just let him use mine for another month I'm just afraid ill get it back in pieces by then!

 

Mind you other then this hes a great partner so I don't want to start ww3 over it but I don't want my stuff to be ruined ether how to handle it I don't know

[TaraMaiden]

It's all material crap.

 

And about a half hour after their expensive globally-publicised launch, they're outdated anyway....

 

Eventually, they all end up the same way.

 

Let him have your old phone and buy yourself the new one.

[Bejita463]

Let him have your old phone and buy yourself the new one.

 

That's what I was thinking as well. Then just refuse to lend him the new one, if he asks.

[Rorschach]

Yeah I'd let my SO borrow things, however when I get them back in the condition your describing it makes me think that he probably doesn't value his own property very much, all the stuff I own lasts forever because I give it immaculate care and I find it something of a character fault when people mistreat their possessions.

 

So yeah I'd let my SO borrow things but it's a huge turn off for me if I get it back in bad shape. I mean think about it, in an ideal situation this would be someone you might someday marry, imagine him treating everything you own with the same respect he's treating your phone!

[SpanksTheMonkey]

It's all material crap.

 

And about a half hour after their expensive globally-publicised launch, they're outdated anyway....

 

Eventually, they all end up the same way.

 

Let him have your old phone and buy yourself the new one.

I know its just a phone but I had to save and make other sacrifices to get it. I'm disabled so on a limited income and 400 is nothing to sneeze at for me.

 

I had already given him one of my old ones when I bought this one thats the one hes now broken it was mint when I gave him it now it looks like it was dragged thu hell and back.

 

Yeah I'd let my SO borrow things, however when I get them back in the condition your describing it makes me think that he probably doesn't value his own property very much, all the stuff I own lasts forever because I give it immaculate care and I find it something of a character fault when people mistreat their possessions.

 

So yeah I'd let my SO borrow things but it's a huge turn off for me if I get it back in bad shape. I mean think about it, in an ideal situation this would be someone you might someday marry, imagine him treating everything you own with the same respect he's treating your phone!

 

 

I'm the same way I bought the extra leather case to protect it and all I hate when my stuff gets scratched or stained/ruined I take pride in my self and my stuff.

 

I found a old cell in our drawer recently very basic Ive decided to have that connected for him.

 

I just don't see the point in going for a new one the way he cares for is stuff its just tossing money out the window hey thanks for the replies guys

[TaraMaiden]

I apologise unreservedly if my post came over as crass and uncaring.

That wasn't my intention.

I guess, if you like, this may be a salutary lesson for you though, to consider carefully what you will stand, and what you won't stand.

 

I personally feel it's a mark of disrespect for you, for him to have abused your property in this way.

It also takes for granted your willingness to part with your things and then assume the right to treat them thus.

 

I don't know what to suggest to you, for this particular instance.

Either insist on being reimbursed, or do not buy him a new phone, or vow to never lend him anything again, given the cavalier attitude with which he's treated both you and the 'phone.