spike7165 Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 (edited) Hi Had my second date, yeh! After my thread and panic of having messed up the 1st date saw her again last night and it was great, she told me she was more relaxed and practically jumped on me when she saw me. Spent all night in a quiet bar talking and watching the sunrise. It got hotter and hotter with a lot of kissing, with light touches everywhere and little groans from her. I noticed its her time of the month, so of course a big reason shes not taking it further right now. But judging from her kissing and groaning I think she wants to. So question is how often should we be seeing each other now? We live so close and our schedules are flexible, so its easy. I said to her it felt right being with her and she agreed and wants to see me again today. Is there a problem with seeing her daily at the beginning, she seems to want to and I gave her the option to wait a day or two last night but she still wanted to see me? Whats the opinion? PS Forgot to add she wants me to take her out with her two young girls on Saturday which is a good sign I think but a bit nerveracking as it sounds like they have mummy anxiety about dating! Edited April 28, 2010 by spike7165
D-Lish Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 When I met my ex-husband, we spent every day together from that day on and became attached at the hip. It just felt easy and natural. Granted, it's not always that easy, but when it is, it's nice. If you two both want to spend the time together, just go with the flow. She doesn't seem like she wants to play games, and you don't either.
Author spike7165 Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 Glad you said that, it does feel natural, she's a bit more shy and English isn't her first language but in any case her actions are definitely speaking louder than her words! When we were sitting on the beach at 6am we both said that it just felt right and natural to see each other if we could. Kind of seems like why not and not to see her, for no good reason would be wrong...
D-Lish Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I agree, in the 30+ age group, it's nice when people don't want to play games. You don't have to see each other every night, but if you're both gravitating towards spending lots of time together- why not? If I met a guy that blew me away, and it felt right, I'd spend as much time with him as my schedule would allow. The guy I casually date currently, I see once a week. My schedule, or his, doesn't allow for more. But once a week works for us.
Author spike7165 Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 Thats what I thought. If I was working in a big city and the schedule didn't allow it then fine, but when we're close and we can both pretty much make our own schedule then if we want to why deliberately play games when we don't want to. I gave her an out to say she was busy or had something to do but she didn't want to take it.. I think it's the physical tension thats building up as well that makes us both want to see each other. I think you or another lady yesterday said she was probably inwardly struggling about going to bed together, well I think that but also its her time of the month, so I think we're both building up a lot of electricity. Without sounding like a schoolkid, casual exploration of her body wasn't rejected last night and I did notice a bit of groaning :-) I think she got a bit too wound up though and grabbed my hand tight after a while so point is the tension seems to be building so not to see her would be insane and stop that.
D-Lish Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Yeah, that was me that brought up the inner struggle some women have with sex. See what happens after you guys have sex.
bunnixkisses Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 You can look at it two ways: Let things go..and follow your heart. If you want to see her everyday..than do it! Don't be so critical about what's right and wrong, and just do what feels right. If it doesn't work..it doesn't. If you guys end up needing space..so be it. But you gotta go with how you feel..it will make things more interesting. OR Moniter every step. Make sure you're doing the right things. Of course, being together daily is going to get annoying and is going to make it boring..eventually. It will be a lot harder to tell a girl after 3 months of non stop quality time that you need space. She'll take it personal. Or likewise. But if you start thinking so critically about the right things to do..the relationship will always be like that and will eventually turn into a chore. Now this is just an opinion...and not every situation is the same. Just do what you think feels right
Author spike7165 Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 Thanks Ladies I'm going to go with the flow, we've had hours and hours of chat and fun with no uncomfortableness at all and that initial electricity when we met is still there, after learning a lot about each other so it doesn't make sense to artificially stop that unless there is a geniuine need to work or do something else. It feels like we're kind of simmering on heat right now like milk on the stove and its slowly boiling. With the tension rising, so to take it off the heat and let the tension fall would be a big mistake I think. :-)
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