sexibanez Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Hey, I'm a teacher and a new colleague started at our school about a month ago. We've been out on a couple occasions with everyone else at the pub on Friday nights, and we've gotten on really well and clicked. I invited her out with my housemates but she was busy the next day...anyway, we just got back from the Easter hols but during that time we kept friendly texts going, she invited me out with her housemates a few days ago but I was stuck on holiday due to the ash cloud over Europe . Since returning to work we haven't really had a chance to talk, and to be honest I don't really want to be too full on at work as we're very busy, but we always go out on Fridays as a group so that's when I tend to speak to her. After reading through the forums, I'm unsure of how to proceed. I want to play it cool, but need to show more romantic interest. I'm also unsure of whether I should just keep things as they are until I know her better and then decide to make a move - or just ask her out, if it's a no I can just move on. I just want to make the right move at the right time but don't know what that is. The worst thing is I'm aware I'm overanalysing this - which is always a big no no, but if I could gage some independent opinions I might be better equipped on how to proceed...I will carry on with my life and stop thinking about it after this...promise!
bunnixkisses Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 No worries about over thinkin this kinda stuff...its a tough situation. In my opinion, it sounds like you guys are becoming more than friendly co workers. However, I would kinda try to find out if she is like that with other co workers, so you don't mis read the signals. I wouldn't come OUT right with the feelings and asking out until you're almost positive of her feelings. The work situation is the reason for that peice of advice. You need to remember that if you do ask her out, and she does not feel the same way, it can make things very awkward for the both of you. Take it slow at first, do little things so she knows you're interested, like ask her to have lunch with ya or invite her to potentially romantic OR friendship type situations. It will allow you to feel her out a bit
Author sexibanez Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 No worries about over thinkin this kinda stuff...its a tough situation. In my opinion, it sounds like you guys are becoming more than friendly co workers. However, I would kinda try to find out if she is like that with other co workers, so you don't mis read the signals. I wouldn't come OUT right with the feelings and asking out until you're almost positive of her feelings. The work situation is the reason for that peice of advice. You need to remember that if you do ask her out, and she does not feel the same way, it can make things very awkward for the both of you. Take it slow at first, do little things so she knows you're interested, like ask her to have lunch with ya or invite her to potentially romantic OR friendship type situations. It will allow you to feel her out a bit Hey, thanks for the brilliant advice, everything you say makes sense and I appreciate it! Any other takes on this? It's really weird as we barely get a chance to talk at work, just when we all go out.
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