lullaby Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Should I call him if I'm having a family issue? Hey, my grandpa is having surgery tomorrow and I'm feeling really down. My bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago, we talked a bit, but we are not together. But I need him, and I feel the urge to call him and tell him about my grandpa, should I do it??? Best,
tigereyes1428 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 no - its over - if he cared what was going on in your life he would not have left you - call a friend x
sean1970 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Should I call him if I'm having a family issue? Hey, my grandpa is having surgery tomorrow and I'm feeling really down. My bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago, we talked a bit, but we are not together. But I need him, and I feel the urge to call him and tell him about my grandpa, should I do it??? Best, In a matter of 6 months after our breakup, I lost my grandmother, a cousin my age, and had a birthday... Never did talk with her... It was hard but you just have to realize that they are not the ones that will comfort you when you are down... Not to mention, it reeks of a tactic and the ex will smell it a mile away.
USMCHokie Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Agreed. Your ex is no longer part of your life. I'm sure you have friends or other family members to turn to. Unfortunately, your ex should be the last person you'd ever think of turning to...
Author lullaby Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Thanks, guys. I know the best thing to do would be not to contact him, but what if he had said that I could call him if something happened to me? I don't know. I can't decide at this point. I guess I'm confused and it doesn't matter if he was for me back then, he is not now, but it so hard to do it!!!!!
EthanH Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 you are looking for comfort from someone who can't really provide it. I know you think you could be closer to him than anyone else, but the reality of it would be, it would be fake, as at the moment, he doesn't want to be with you. I know what has happened is really difficult, but I would stay away from your ex, you have enough on your plate atm and re-opening that wound is just going to hurt you. Speak to friends, they are safe bets to help you. And yet, if I was in your situation, i would want to run to my ex, she was my best friend and the comfort i would just get from a hug from her is almost dizzying... but, you have to resist...it is important for the short and long term...
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