Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 It sucks to say the least. She's actually the first girl I've met since my ex that I really connected with, and she has/had a boyfriend who snapped when she came on to me. I posted about it in the Other Man/Woman section and it's a read, so no reason to repost it. Suffice it to say she flirted with me on a few occasions when with her boyfriend, a friend of mine. She's attractive and has a great sense of humor that's so similar to mine it's almost uncanny. We were all out one night and she came on to me drunk, causing her boyfriend to flip. Worse yet after that when he was gone (drove away angry) she basically was all over me in front of two other people. Now I'd attribute her actions to just alcohol, or a revenge scheme on her boyfriend (who has screwed around on her) except for it going on 4-5 times prior to that night. The worst part is I actually feel something towards her, and I'm a cynical, picky SOB after my ex and most other girls that have come along didn't even make me think a thing about them. I also feel obligated to honor the "bro" code, in that I wouldn't date her even if they broke up since I know her boyfriend well, and his brother. If a friend of mine dated my ex after we broke up, that would be hurtful and I try not to do anything I wouldn't do to someone else. So it sucks. I'd love to pursue something with her as I feel entirely different about her than any other girl. However I don't feel I can. What would you do Dating section, besides "RUN AWAAAAY" which I've already heard and am considering anyway.
bayouboi Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 If you've already been given the advice to run away but you're still looking for advice, that just means you just want someone to give you a green light to do what you want to do anyway. You don't need strangers to give you justification for being a scuzz.
Dblock10 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Its one of those things. I am in similar situation. I am going to try hard and forget about her. Wish I could change things though. It's not fair. I think with this girl you described, she sounds immature and just wanting to be center of attention whilst disregarding other peoples feelings. there are lottsss of girls like this. they are not worth it.
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 If you've already been given the advice to run away but you're still looking for advice, that just means you just want someone to give you a green light to do what you want to do anyway. You don't need strangers to give you justification for being a scuzz. Nope, because what you say won't affect what I actually do. I'm asking what YOU would do, not to tell ME what to do. I keep encountering this, people read what they want and reply incorrectly.
Dblock10 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 so she has or had a bf that is your friend? You say you wouldn't date her bro code etc, fair play. If I was you I'd probably have a fling with her, see where it goes if you want that. Id just want to poke it then leave it, especially if she was all over me lol.. (don't judge me )
bayouboi Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Nope, because what you say won't affect what I actually do. I'm asking what YOU would do, not to tell ME what to do. If this is true, then why tell us to exclude a response of what "we would do" with the following? What would you do Dating section, besides "RUN AWAAAAY" which I've already heard and am considering anyway. It seems to me the options are to "pursue it" or "not pursue it" and you're telling us to exclude the "not pursue it" option, therefore it seems like you just want a bunch of strangers to help you justify your desires.
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 If this is true, then why tell us to exclude a response of what "we would do" with the following? It seems to me the options are to "pursue it" or "not pursue it" and you're telling us to exclude the "not pursue it" option, therefore it seems like you just want a bunch of strangers to help you justify your desires. Why? Because I've already considered it, and am probably going to do it. Thus, telling me the same thing I'm probably going to do is pointless. And no, you're wrong. Move on. This keeps happening on this site, people refuse to read the actual post and make assumptions. "I'm interested in a girl I CAN'T HAVE" "I won't do it because of the bro code" etc etc.
bayouboi Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Why? Because I've already considered it, and am probably going to do it. Thus, telling me the same thing I'm probably going to do is pointless. And no, you're wrong. Move on. This keeps happening on this site, people refuse to read the actual post and make assumptions. "I'm interested in a girl I CAN'T HAVE" "I won't do it because of the bro code" etc etc. Okay, I'll play along then. What would bayouboi do? I would do what you told me not to tell you that I would do.
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 It's just a weird situation. Nothing can happen, but this girl has been on my mind for days now and I can't shake it. Couldn't have been a single girl, noooo.
Kamille Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Sooo... you pursue... Who's to say this girl won't hit on another man when she's with you? I mean, she's clearly proven she isn't beyond hitting on a man right in front of her bf... Or am I missing something?
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Sooo... you pursue... Who's to say this girl won't hit on another man when she's with you? I mean, she's clearly proven she isn't beyond hitting on a man right in front of her bf... Or am I missing something? Well I'm trying to figure out WHY she did it. She was drunk, but was she doing it to deliberately make her boyfriend mad? Is she genuinely attracted to me? Like I said it's not like her boyfriend's a saint, she found text messages from a girl telling him they had a hotel room and all this stuff. He's cheated on her, and I know that and she doesn't. I honestly don't know.
alphamale Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 this chick is just messin' with your head...your friend is a bad boy and she'll probably stick with him
Peaceful Guy Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 What would you do Dating section, besides "RUN AWAAAAY" which I've already heard and am considering anyway. go adult, go waaaay adult.. recognize that you can have feelings/be attracted to someone and yet still choose the healthy course of action.
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 this chick is just messin' with your head...your friend is a bad boy and she'll probably stick with him I'm a bad boy, he's a psycho haha.
Pfiend101 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Bros before hoes man. Come on now. Look at it this way if shes all over you at the bar. Shes just as likely to do it with one of your other friends when and if you got together. She's likely a repeat offender.
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Bros before hoes man. Come on now. Look at it this way if shes all over you at the bar. Shes just as likely to do it with one of your other friends when and if you got together. She's likely a repeat offender. I know, I already said that. However there are extenuating circumstances as to why she did it. It's not like her boyfriend did nothing wrong, you know. I can't blame her at all.
Pfiend101 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Doesn't matter what her boyfriend did. It says a lot about her character. She gets drunk and starts grabbin/flirtin with other guys when shes in a relationship.
sweetjasmine Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 she has/had a boyfriend who snapped when she came on to me. Suffice it to say she flirted with me on a few occasions when with her boyfriend, a friend of mine. We were all out one night and she came on to me drunk, causing her boyfriend to flip. Worse yet after that when he was gone (drove away angry) she basically was all over me in front of two other people. Now I'd attribute her actions to just alcohol, or a revenge scheme on her boyfriend (who has screwed around on her) except for it going on 4-5 times prior to that night. I actually feel something towards her If a friend of mine dated my ex after we broke up, that would be hurtful and I try not to do anything I wouldn't do to someone else. I'm a bad boy, he's a psycho haha. Drama bomb, tick tock. If he really did smash your sideview mirrors, what do you think he's going to try to smash when you finally end up banging his gf?
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Drama bomb, tick tock. If he really did smash your sideview mirrors, what do you think he's going to try to smash when you finally end up banging his gf? Probably, yeah. The bomb already exploded however, he went off the handle worse than his brother has ever, ever seen. If they somehow stay together, and we all hang out I can only see it ending one way, with something happening between us. And then someone's going to get hurt.
Author Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 :lmao: He tries to fight everyone, all the time to the point of psychosis. Also been with him when he stood on top of a car at a drive through screaming until the cops showed up.
Rearden Metal Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 He tries to fight everyone, all the time to the point of psychosis. Also been with him when he stood on top of a car at a drive through screaming until the cops showed up. Love partying with these types LOL!
Author Engadget Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 Love partying with these types LOL! Yeah it's fun to be on the outside and witness it. He'll pick a fight if someone coughs.
Author Engadget Posted April 29, 2010 Author Posted April 29, 2010 As an update, I sent her a message the next day after the blowout apologizing if any of what happened was my fault. She finally got back to me today: "Don't feel bad...you didn't do anything wrong! This has been a problem that Mark has had for a long time....he is a very very jealous person and if he thinks he heard something the wrong way he will take it to another level that isn't needed. I left him and said some things that weren't very nice but needed to be said....Mark is a 27 year old man that does not take on the responsibilities that a 27 year old should and I let him know how I felt about it. Everyone even his parents agree with me too. So he said he was going to fix it and take on his responsibilities but I wont believe him till he does." So apparently she dropped him. I told her we all still want her to come around and hang out with us regardless of the situation. I guess we'll see what happens!
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