Long -What Are The Chances Of Us Reconsiling?,Did He Do That Stuff For Fun?

[TooMuchPride]

Ive Written Quite A Few Posts Seeking Answers...Ive Told My Stories In Many Different Ways , But Im Going to Tell It Again Maybe For The Last Time , Possibly I'll Get Some Insight.

 

I Was In A Long Distance 7 Month Relationship That Ended 2 Months Ago , I guess i fell a lot harder than i expected under those circumstances. Ive accepted it and i am still not completely over it , i still want him and i hate the idea of starting over...

 

Me and him had problems here and there , nothing to big , but one night i got upset and "broke up" with him as a means of communication because he wasnt really treating me that good and he had been lying ALOT , and the stories id hear became ridiculous , its something i always did , and i guess that is a part of my immaturity , normally he'd start texting and messaging me within a week , i had blocked him off from communication online and as usual he began to text , i was playing hard to get and then my text ran out , but i wasnt worried , i figured he'd find another means.there was a party the night my text ran out and i didnt take that into consideration.

 

there is a girl he has known way longer than me that i think he had a crush on way before me and she was at the party too , after than night he didnt contact for 3 weeks which scared and hurt me and had me crying constantly , so i called him , we spoke he seemed genuinely happy to hear from me and sounded like he missed me , and then he told me that he kissed her that night , and then i realized that is most likely y he hasnt called ,i was sure he still had feelings for me but i know he may have been able to develop them for her in that short space of time , and he could be happy without the troubles that we had.

 

i get upset quickly so after that call we were 'friends" for a week and i had been pretending to like this guy from a week before i called him , and i guess it became obvious that i didnt really like the guy , but it was killing me to see him interact with the girl cause i felt like the outside girl and she was the girlfriend , he swore to he he'd never get back with me , i knew i still had a chance but , i get upset so quickly that its hard. i told him i wanted to fix it and he said "what about (the girl)" and i just got mad an blocked him again no questions asked.and about a week later...

 

 

i ended up messaging him again (stupid) asking him y he was treating me that way for this girl , he gave me the run around , it became obvious he really likes her , this convo ended almost the same way , i didnt block this time.

 

 

i but another week passed and nothing. so once again i messaged him , but this time i told him i want to fix it and idc what the circumstances were after bargaining and making my self look like and idiot by comprimising all my morals , he said ok n then i asked him to do one more thing before i added him back on fb and he told me no ,and of course i flipped and said nevermind. and blocked but this time he messaged my other account , and i didnt see it till 2 days later and i answered and he never answered back.

 

 

another week passed..

 

this time i saw a picture of him and the girl kissing , it stung me but at the time i felt like it brought closure and i didnt feel as bad... i sent him a message telling him , i was stupid for how i was acting and that seeing the picture made me realize we better off apart and that we didnt need to be friends but lets atleast leave it on good terms , at that time i meant it , well most of it , i still wanted him but at the time i felt maybe its better like this , once again he seemed so excited to get the message ,told me he missed me and made it clear they were not together(i know that means nothing) he kept asking me to add him back , and although i didnt want to i eventually gave in. we were cool and when we spoke i could tell he still wanted to get back but his feelings for her stopped that, one day he tells me he still loves me and he has thoughts about us getting back together and all this stuff and i said "but u love (girls name)?" and he said not love like alot , and i said ok , then i asked him who he had more feelings for he said me and then i left .

 

 

i felt so "antsy" for the entire day , it was like i was trying to stop myself from being excite dby thinking about the ba dthings that could happen , i felt as if he started it all over we were "friends" but by saying that stuff he kind of made me fall a little again , so i was on edge , then i noticed as soon as the girl came online he completely ignored me , i felt bad...so i said "you see this y i didnt want to add you , i dont believe anything u said" and then i blocked and deleted him. , this thursday will make 2 weeks since that happened :S...

 

 

i feel like even if he wanted to say something he wouldnt and that by now he could be completely over me while im stuck ..its been 2 months and he has never initiated the convo , always me... i kno i should just move on and i have tried but ill be home very soon and i will see him everywhere , i kno he is enjoying the single life cause i kno he has been doing alot with people besides this girl , i dont kno how to handle this , i kno if he wanted me he'd contact me and he seems happy even when we dont talk...is it best i just leave it alone knowing he probably wont say anything and let him get over it completely if he hasnt already? ...or should i say something else? if so what?

 

 

even though he never contacted y did he seem so happy when i did? , anyone who has been on his side of this before , what would cause u to do that? is there a chance he feels like i do? or is he just playing the game? y tell me he still loves me?

 

i get the urge to text or send a song..but i feel so desperate .

Edited April 27, 2010 by TooMuchPride

[EthanH]

This is all a bit too much to take in... two main things that scream from your post are:

 

1) you are both acting very immaturely. I don't think either of you are ready for a mature relationship, so that means breaking up, getting back, messing each other around, moving on etc.

 

2) You have been burnt by the fire of playing games. You have to learn from this. breaking up with someone to prove a lesson is so stupid, and it looks like you have found out the hard way

 

tbh i don't think it really matters what you do... and i don't mean that in an uncaring way. I think you need to have a serious chat to think if you are really ready for any of this... and if you are, is he?

[TooMuchPride]

i feel like i did learn from it , and although i think he may have feelings , he really likes that girl...and he seems fine with or without me... and i cant force him to want to fix and i think he might only want it when i return..but by then id feel like an idiot

[mickleb]

TMP -

 

He made you feel insecure before. He's still doing that.

 

Take some time out to prepare yourself for the guy who doesn't make you feel like that.

 

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