The "we didn't want to tell you then, but now..." phase.

[OOReeee]

Hey Loveshackers!

 

So it's been almost 2.5 months since the horrendous break up I went through, and although I still think about her on a daily basis, I definitely feel better. Basically now she is kind of ignoring me (I was NC for about 1.5 months) but I really don't mind.

 

However, over the last few weeks more and more people came to me and said that they didn't want to tell me while we were together, but now that we are broken up I should know that throughout my entire relationship they all thought that I was too good for her, that I can do better, and despite the fact that she is attractive, she was just bad news. Some people (especially girls) said some way nasty stuff about her and even that they thought less of me for being with her.

 

Now I wouldn't be the biggest advocate for her good name but it did make me feel weird. First of all, it is still a girl I liked a lot. Secondly, it's a girl that I wanted to get back together with for a while, knowing all her flaws, and thirdly because it made me doubt myself and my personal choices in women. I was also kind of upset that no one (but one person) told me that during my relationship and I had to learn it the hard way...

 

Did that happen to any of you? How did it make you feel?

 

 

Thanks guys!

[JohnP82]

Yeah I got a lot of that too. It makes you feel weird for sure because you doubt yourself and then you kind of question your friends. It's like if you saw this in her why didn't you say something.

[TooMuchPride]

i think everyone gets this lol , its your support system trying to make you feel better , "you could do better anyway!" "he was not good enough!" lol...i dont think it means anything.

[USMCHokie]

Yep...I got this from everyone...family, friends...everyone...one really good friend even told me openly during my relationship that I could do better...and then he sang praises when we broke up... Obviously my ex hated him...