Eeyore79 Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 "It's not you, it's me" generally means that you're not a bad person and haven't done anything particularly wrong, but they're just not feeling it, they don't love you and don't want to be with you.
ADF Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 It is extremely infuriating. Sadly, getting an honest answer out of people in this world is nearly impossible.
In-The-Wheat Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 At least its better than "things aren't working out" through text msg & w/out a reason..
sumdude Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 "It's not you, it's me" generally means that you're not a bad person and haven't done anything particularly wrong, but they're just not feeling it, they don't love you and don't want to be with you. Agreed. After all, is there any good way to break up with someone? Is there anything you can say that makes it easier on the one being dumped? The times I've been the dumper the more I tried to say the worse it got until I was just babbling nonsense. When I've been the dumpee I know that whatever she said just jangled around in my head when I knew in my heart the real reason was simple. "I just don't want you like that anymore!"
Eeyore79 Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 When I've said "It's not you, it's me" it has meant different things with different people. It has meant: -You're unemployed, and I've waited for months but you aren't even looking for a job, and I don't want to continue being bled dry financially -I've met someone else who's better looking and more educated than you, or has less baggage, and I prefer him -You're boring, and I met someone else who's more fun -I'm sick of you being a grumpy, sulky, pain in the ass -I thought I could deal with your baggage, or your other problems, but I was wrong and now I want out I don't think there is a good way to break up with someone, you have to try to make it easier on them. You can't tell them the truth if it's hurtful. I couldn't actually be honest about the breakup reasons listed above, because they're really hurtful, so I made excuses like "It's not you, it's me".
alphamale Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 i don't believe i've ever used the term "its not you, its me"...because its always you
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