exoduse22 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Please put the best way you guys know thanks =)
Template Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 "open up" as in relaying your feelings to people you know, don't know, etc? Or "open up" by being more social? Personally I have always been self conscious in going up to a total stranger and trying to initiate a conversation - what is their first impression of me? What will they think? Do they think I'm weird? What if I say is weird? etc. Truth be told, I kind of still am, so I have to "get in the mood" to do these things, and a big part of it, is not caring what people think of you. I also have to convince myself, "I'm fine the way I am. So if I don't vibe with someone, than that's OK." Hope this helps.
ClydeJW Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 "open up" as in relaying your feelings to people you know, don't know, etc? Or "open up" by being more social? Personally I have always been self conscious in going up to a total stranger and trying to initiate a conversation - what is their first impression of me? What will they think? Do they think I'm weird? What if I say is weird? etc. Truth be told, I kind of still am, so I have to "get in the mood" to do these things, and a big part of it, is not caring what people think of you. I also have to convince myself, "I'm fine the way I am. So if I don't vibe with someone, than that's OK." Hope this helps. At least I know that I am not alone. Sometimes I really don't want to be bothered with talking to people. But I still yearn to have friends.
RobM Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 What works best for me is to practice, practice, practice. Just start with anytime you're in line for anything start talking to the person next to you about anything, the weather, the long wait, something they are wearing, just start a conversation. It helps confidence and you'll find there is nothing to be scared of, most people are really nice and happy to talk to you. Then when you're in a situation where it really matters to you, with someone you care about, it will be so much easier.
Pedigree Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 I'm of the opinion that he's talking about giving information about yourself to someone you hardly know rather than about going up to people. I think it's a matter of closeness. The amount of opening up I do depends on how close I am with the person in question. Close friends would know plenty about your life, acquaintances less so, and total strangers the least.
Author exoduse22 Posted May 3, 2010 Author Posted May 3, 2010 For example you are at a bar then you see this person, a total stranger, how would you open up to this person without thinking that you are weird?
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