Unrequited love?

[AvaSylvian]

I've been dating a guy for 3 months and have extremely strong feelings for him....I've known him since I was 14, but we just started dating recently. I've told him how strongly I feel for him and that I love him, but he says that I don't love him and that I just feel lust for him or I'm just infatuated. He says he likes me a lot but love takes a while. Anyway, everytime we hang out I always tell him how much I love him. Shouldn't this scare him off? Why does he still hang out with me if he knows I feel extremely strongly for him and he doesn't feel the same for me? He doesn't even claim me as his girlfriend. Should I stop dating him? I really want to because I don't like feeling strongly for someone who doesn't feel the same way for me. But at the same time, I want to maybe keep dating him while hoping that he eventually starts feeling as strongly for me as I do for him... what do u think?

[ImThinkingWTF]

I would definitely chill with the I love yous. He's probably flattered or enjoys the attention but could definitely scare him away if he doesn't feel the same way. How old are you? Have you just known him since 14 or had a continuous friendship since then?

[janie423]

I would definitely chill with the I love yous.

 

I agree with this, ILY is a weighted statement and should be used sparingly in my opinion unless it is reciprocated in kind.

[Green]

You sound young... 16 or 17 im guessing? Just enjoy yourself and talk to him about concrete things like "are we exclusive?"... if he says yes to that then thats all that matters, you should probably dump him if he says no

[Knittress]

Don't waste your energy on someone who gives you nothing (or little) back, no matter how awesome/rich/sexy/famous/smart/cool they are. This is where self respect comes in - you've got to tell yourself, that no matter what you're feeling, you are worth more than what he's offering you. This is hard, I know.