girl who hurt Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 My husband and I went out of town for the weekend. Saturday night we went to the strip club with 4 other couples,and stayed for 2 hours. I had been drinking so I fell asleep @ 1 am my husband told me he was going to the hotel bar for some drinks. I woke up at 3am knowing something was not right I get dressed and go down stairs to the bar ,and it was closed. My husband comes in at 3:45 am he went back to the strip bar. He must have seen something he liked and went back for it. He told me he had 5 dances in the back and spent $300 in 1 hour (fully Nude). I even found a bottle of ky jelly in his pocket. I am disgusted he would throw 8yrs away on a skank. He keeps telling me he did not cheat its a strip bar. I call it cheating when you lie and pay to have a fully nude girl rubbing herself on you in the back of the bar. I am so heartbroken, disgusted, embaressed ect. I would never have done anything like that to him. Please give me your opinions on this situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 If this is not a trollish thread.. I say he had more than just a dance.. trust me on that one.. you don't have KY in your pocket for a lap dance.. Link to post Share on other sites
GaLwAyGiRL Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 is he even appologetic? My H and I did the whole strip club thing until it turned into a problem. It sounds it may be for him too! what are you going to do? If you choose to do nothing it WILL HAPPEN AGAIN! trust me! I have felt the pain you are feeling right now. If he doesn't think its wrong then strip down naked and give one of his friends a private lap dance for a few hours...that will make him think... This is what I threatened my H with after I found out about all his lies... If that doesn't work, then leave. Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 If he doesn't think its wrong then strip down naked and give one of his friends a private lap dance for a few hours...that will make him think... This is what I threatened my H with after I found out about all his lies... If that doesn't work, then leave. I agree with this. Its crazy to me that women allow such a double standard. You will see hoards of threads on strip club issues. These wouldn't be an issue if women were willing to go along with their SO's choices and strip for other men. I swear to you that if I ran I strip club, I would have amateur night so that the wives of all the men who frequent the haunt could see just how harmless their men really thought it was when it was their own wives being oogled, giving lap dances and more. Plus it would give the wives a chance to earn some of the money back that their H's are spending on strippers. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 If he doesn't think its wrong then strip down naked and give one of his friends a private lap dance for a few hours...that will make him think... This is what I threatened my H with after I found out about all his lies... If that doesn't work, then leave. I agree with this. Its crazy to me that women allow such a double standard. You will see hoards of threads on strip club issues. These wouldn't be an issue if women were willing to go along with their SO's choices and strip for other men. I swear to you that if I ran I strip club, I would have amateur night so that the wives of all the men who frequent the haunt could see just how harmless their men really thought it was when it was their own wives being oogled, giving lap dances and more. Plus it would give the wives a chance to earn some of the money back that their H's are spending on strippers. So so true. This behaviour is not cool, if it was okay he wouldn't have lied about it. Get to some MC right away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author girl who hurt Posted April 27, 2010 Author Share Posted April 27, 2010 I was their earlier and I saw what the strippers were doing out front. I can only imagine what happens behind the doors. I think he thinks I am some stupid chick he can lie to. I consider what he did cheating. He was out of town in St Louis and spent $600 at a strip club. I found out by the bank records. When I confronted him he said he was buying drinks and dances for the guys. All he wants to do is hang out at strip bars. I don't know why he chooses to be with skanks. Why do guys like skanky girls? I have put up with more s--- from him then I should. I am ready to move on with out him. Link to post Share on other sites
GaLwAyGiRL Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 Girl, If this is an ongoing thing then you need to take action...My H pulled the same thing your H is doing except for the money..that is a crap load to spend somewhere like that...My H also pulled the whole "I bought drinks and dances for my friends" BS! If you want your M to work out then you need to go to MC. How long have you been M? and the only reason men like SC is because these pretty women (who aren't so pretty sometimes when you turn on the lights) are giving them attention and rubbing body parts all over them..what guy wouldn't? I understand its fun but when it becomes a problem then its time to pull the cord. I was a fun loving OPEN wife when we first got together...we went all the time together and it was such a turn on to both of us. He started going behind my back...and now we're here..lol he won't ever step foot in a SC ever again..you couldn't pay him. The look on his face when he came home and I was packing... The problem with these places is there isn't enough supervision. Its all about money in this day and age and people will do anything for it.:mad: Good luck to you hun...we are all here for ya! Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 Strip clubs seem to often become a in your face free pass cheat with some men. What your man did is so screwed up. And totally wasting that amount of money on a stripper...wow. That's so sad. Did you tell him you are ready to move on? I agree with this. Its crazy to me that women allow such a double standard. You will see hoards of threads on strip club issues. These wouldn't be an issue if women were willing to go along with their SO's choices and strip for other men. I swear to you that if I ran I strip club, I would have amateur night so that the wives of all the men who frequent the haunt could see just how harmless their men really thought it was when it was their own wives being oogled, giving lap dances and more. Plus it would give the wives a chance to earn some of the money back that their H's are spending on strippers. Most excellent idea and I have said it myself that men's tunes' change fast when it's the idea of their partner on stage. It's okay for men to oggle and indulge in strippers but they turn into different people when it's the idea of their wife and gf being the one on stage. Double Standard loud and clear. Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 People who do something they know is wrong (as evidenced by his sneaking away in the middle of the night while you were asleep) and then fail to apologize or show any remorse for their behaviour when confronted with it are people to avoid. Your husband seems to be one of those people. I'd be seriously reconsidering my relationship right now, if I was in your place. Link to post Share on other sites
Sazerac Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 With your husband's pattern of behavior it would not be surprising to find out he has a sexual addiction. That being said, there is an explanation but not an excuse. It's up to you as to how you wish to proceed. Personally, I would consider that kind of behavior rude, self-indulgent, disrespectful, and an absolute deal-breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 $600?!?!? Even in my single days when I actually had that much disposable income I think the most I ever spent in a club was $150 & that included a cuban cigar & beer. damn. that's a lot of money. Link to post Share on other sites
fantasy2000 Posted April 30, 2010 Share Posted April 30, 2010 My husband and I went out of town for the weekend. Saturday night we went to the strip club with 4 other couples,and stayed for 2 hours. I had been drinking so I fell asleep @ 1 am my husband told me he was going to the hotel bar for some drinks. I woke up at 3am knowing something was not right I get dressed and go down stairs to the bar ,and it was closed. My husband comes in at 3:45 am he went back to the strip bar. He must have seen something he liked and went back for it. He told me he had 5 dances in the back and spent $300 in 1 hour (fully Nude). I even found a bottle of ky jelly in his pocket. I am disgusted he would throw 8yrs away on a skank. He keeps telling me he did not cheat its a strip bar. I call it cheating when you lie and pay to have a fully nude girl rubbing herself on you in the back of the bar. I am so heartbroken, disgusted, embaressed ect. I would never have done anything like that to him. Please give me your opinions on this situation. You should read some of my threads on this site. A man who is very experienced with these places. I have been through all this with the bruises to show for it. We keep making the same mistakes. A few drinks and plenty of half or fully naked women, horny as hell and we will pay them anything. Men are dumb and emotionally retarded. Suckers for t&a. Don't encourage him by going yourself. Show him there is consequences for his actions. Link to post Share on other sites
SavannahSmiles Posted April 30, 2010 Share Posted April 30, 2010 KY Jelly in the pocket. Wow. It makes you wonder when he got it? Before he went to the club the second time? Did he have it all along hoping for something to happen? It's not funny, but it reminds me of that movie Superbad when the guy made fun of his friend for having lube on hand just in case. Maybe the stripper gave him them KY. Sorry, I'm just fascinated by that part of the story. Link to post Share on other sites
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