i'mhurt Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 yes i know how it sounds, that i'm spying on gf. well indirectly. i have parental controls on my router and i know when questionable sites come up - i have kids. gf and i are going through a "patch" and we're not talking right now and i come across many visits to beastality sites. so now i question if i want to be in this relationship at all. more i think about what i found more i'm disgusted. do i approach her? do i simply end it (that's not as easy - we live together)? i hate to judge but if she gets off on this type of perverse **** I don't know if I should be in this relationship. it's one thing to be curious (i guess) but several visits to this crap is gross!
CarrieT Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 A lot of people view this type of stuff for the shear morbidity and shock value of it moreso than actually getting off on it. For starters, shame on you for spying. What goes on her mind is her business and if it is something that has NEVER materialized, than who are you to judge? Many of us view things that we would never in a million years considering engaging in or sharing. That is why they are called fantasies; they are kept in what SHOULD BE the protected confines of our minds.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 A lot of people view this type of stuff for the shear morbidity and shock value of it moreso than actually getting off on it. For starters, shame on you for spying. What goes on her mind is her business and if it is something that has NEVER materialized, than who are you to judge? Many of us view things that we would never in a million years considering engaging in or sharing. That is why they are called fantasies; they are kept in what SHOULD BE the protected confines of our minds. I agree with this unless shes acting it out behind your back then you have no right to judge her on it I'm sure your not a saint have you ever looked at reg porn? OK granted while I know its not as shocking as what you have found its still watching others that don't include you gf having sex a disturbing feeling for her I'm sure! Bottom line is if things are this bad between you two then call it quits nothing more sad then two people who hang on past the relationships expiration date.
Green Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Dude its not like you found child porn or plans to hurt people on her pc. I say shame on you and you have no business confronting her about anything
Author i'mhurt Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 thanks for your replies. ok, really shame on me? for what? checking my router reports for questionable sites - again i have a kid. @CarrieT I can see your point, people are drawn to shocking taboo videos but it's out of her normal perversity. yes what goes on in her mind is her business; unfortunately i saw a glimpse of her mind that i'm not comfortable with. i'm not judging - in fact i had no plans to approach her. it's not my style. i just wanted to hear what you guys had to say.
Malenfant Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 as OP said, these visits were flagged up because he has parental controls on his computer. thats different so spying, so i think its a bit harsh to say shame on him considering how he found out. i think posters are saying that this in itself isnt enough to leave someone over, but as you are having problems, this may be the nail in the coffin. we all have our limits, we all have things we cant understand and dont accept. in this case, the OP finds beastiality totally disgusting and he feels that his GF has thoughts that he find unattractive and unacceptable. TBH i think most people would be shocked to find their partner had been viewing such sites. If this is the last straw, and you feel you cant look at her in the same way, then its over, whether people think thats fair or not.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 thanks for your replies. ok, really shame on me? for what? checking my router reports for questionable sites - again i have a kid. . Common you two are in the middle of a bad argument are you sure you went snooping around to see what was what? if I'm wrong then sorry but thats just how it seams I'm sure no one meant to offend you..
JackJack Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Its your computer right? You have kids right? Then you have every right to know whats going on in your home. However, I think you should at least ask her about it. Yeah she might be embarrassed and I don't know to many people who wouldn't be actually. She may have a simple explaination, that she was curious, if thats the case let her know about kids in your home and how you feel that isn't to be viewed in your home with them there etc. If you find it again, then perhaps thats more of a form of disrespect, and you do need to re think the relationship.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Have you thought about the fact they very well may be links spawned off ads on porn sites. Is she actually looking at images and movie clips from these sites or is she looking at other porn and the bestiality links show up in your log because of the ads running along the side of the page ? You have every right to monitor the activity on your computer and you have kids so that is a no brainer.. As for the bestiality.. the issue may just be porn, which would be up to you to decide if her activity was okay then. JMO
blair08 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 (edited) Your title says "g/f's pc" So is this her computer? You said you had a router...so its her computer but your have the router because your kids correct? Also I agree its not that you are spying, you have it set to where it lets you know about unusual sites because of your kids, nothing wrong with that. Is this your home? Her home, you share it and pay the rent both? Anyway bottom line is, you have kids in the home, and I think you should be able to know what is going on in a home you share with kids being there. It very well could be curiosity on her part, however, you need to let her know you are aware, because of the kids. Edited April 27, 2010 by blair08
BubbleFreak Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Moving on from how you found out to what has been discovered. In Australia looking up beastiality is illegal and I've had a look at porn sites and I've never had this stuff just pop up, so yah i think that if it says someone has been viewing beastiality then it was most likely deliberate. Second, can you be sure it was your girlfriend looking up those sites, and not someone else with access to the computer? Lastly, no one can judge you for your reaction to this. You find this stuff revolting, that's the way it is for you plain and simple, and you don't need to justify why. If it is unacceptable for you in a partner, then that is a good enough reason to break up. I do agree with a previous poster, however, to actually ask her about it. I think it's best to just be upfront.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I just thought of something else could it be a virus possibly doing this? Ive had viruses in the past do some funky stuff to my PC and even add files to the computer I didn't put there.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Personally I think beastiality is beyond the realms of normal or healthy and I would end a relationship if I caught my SO with it. I would ask first though.
Left in a Lurch Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I bet you saw two girls, one cup but does it mean that is what you like and does it give people a glimpse into your mind if you've seen it?
sweetjasmine Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I bet you saw two girls, one cup but does it mean that is what you like and does it give people a glimpse into your mind if you've seen it? Does it give people a glimpse into your mind if you watched two girls, one cup and other things like it multiple times? OP wrote "many visits to bestiality sites" not "one visit to one site."
Green Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I bet you saw two girls, one cup but does it mean that is what you like and does it give people a glimpse into your mind if you've seen it? Two girls, one goat
TwoForgiving Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I would have a problem having found out this information while debugging router problems. Can you imagine the images you will have running through your mind the next time you have sex with your partner? If you're going down on her, would you be thinking that she would prefer it be an animal instead of you? Yes, it's not great to see what goes on inside her head but, on the other hand, the can of worms has been opened and there is no closing it now. It would be an issue for me even if I didn't want it to be - it would.
JamesM Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 What you are thinking is probably worse than reality. My wife once visited a strange website, too. It had to do with gross things and sex. I can say that I was shocked when I saw it in my history, and seeing the times of day, I knew it could only be her. I didn't say anything about it. A couple of days later she mentioned to me about this site that a friend at work told her about. And she had to confess to me that she felt drawn to it because of the shock value. The pictures were in her mind and she was not happy about it yet she had felt drawn to it. I have never seen her visiting any such site again. Perhaps your gf is visiting these sites as a shock value and a fascination because of how weird it is. Or she may have interest, Who knows but her. Talk with her.
Engadget Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 People need to learn to read before replying. He made it clear the parental controls made it come up. Jeez.
Green Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 People need to learn to read before replying. He made it clear the parental controls made it come up. Jeez. shame on you I do know how to read... into things... yes read into things
mansquito Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 ...the can of worms has been opened and there is no closing it now. Dude.... that's just nasty.
MichelleZB Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Don't jump to conclusions. 1) Are you sure it wasn't one of your kids looking at the site? They live at the house too. 2) Are you sure these weird sites weren't just pop-up ads or erroneous links she clicked on? Weird porn is ubiquitous on the internet, and you can often end up where you didn't want to be by accident. 3) I read, for instance, Dan Savage's column, and often google fetishes I haven't heard of purely for research/amusement. Are you sure she didn't do something like that?
CarrieT Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 This thread has me disturbed on a number of levels. I am an artist and I look at a lot of really disturbing images and admit to looking at Genki porn for the shear fascination that people can *do* those sorts of things. If someone were to judge me based on my internet searching, they might think me a closet mass murder who is looking for the perfect recipe on which sauce to prepare to accompany my latest victim while I masturbate with octopus and eels! Seriously folks; people look at things on the 'net for a wide variety of reasons and that is why what happens in peoples' minds SHOULD REMAIN PRIVATE. When you go and look inside someone's mind, you see dark, disturbing, and troubling things. That is why you should not look and IF YOU DO, you should not question what you see. What dark recesses exist in YOUR mind that you don't want to share with people?
sweetjasmine Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 What dark recesses exist in YOUR mind that you don't want to share with people? I don't really disagree with what you wrote, but if I didn't want to share some dark parts of my mind with people, I wouldn't browse those sites on someone else's internet connection.
JamesM Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 I think that if you cannot discuss this with your gf then you have deeper issues to be worried about. My guess is still that you will find the truth much less "exciting" than what is in your mind.
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