bananaboat11 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 ...i don't want to end up an old maid. wtf is wrong with me? i'm living my life. i'm happy. doing my phd.. i work out... i'm very fit... i'm financially stable... i get checked out... i have my good friends... i have some bit of a social life amid all my phd work... blah blah blah blah blah blah blah... back to watching house md FML. BLAH. wow it's been awhile since I posted on LS.
spike7165 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I was literally in the same boat as you until last weekend. I have my own company, making decent money, not bad looking but had just become comfortable with not dating and didn't expect to as I live somewhere lacking in decent women anyway. In fact I had resigned myself to being single for a long time and that was ok with me. Then Saturday met a girl who blew me away. Now I'm not saying I've completely changed or I;m in love or any of that just saying that I went from not caring about women or girlfriends at all to having someone connect with me on a whole new level. It was a bit earth shattering really, so I basically think you have grown tired of whats happened in your past and didn't see much future in women. But if you meet someone who creates that spark it will change. Maybe this won't work out for me and this woman but I know now that I'm not stuck in a rut or just not interested at all, its just that I havent met anybody to bother with before.
D-Lish Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I love House:D Even though it's a little contrived- the writing is great. You don't have to date anyone, and you won't end up an old maid (man). You're still really young, and so far away from reaching the cusp of your career. You have lots of time. Don't be in a rush, and don't feel bad about taking a break from dating. You're discerning- and that's a good thing. When you feel like crap about yourself, you tend to date people that reinforce that notion. When you feel better about yourself, you tend to wait for it. Sounds like you're feeling better- and the right girl will happen one of these days.
USMCHokie Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I don't want to date either. But I will date you, Rob. We'll make it happen.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I have been feeling the same way lately. But I want to date I just can't get myself to get back in the horse. I just freeze up when I start thinking I should get back into dating again. I just feel burnt out on past experiences and don't know if I can work up the excitment to put myself out there again currently and risk my emotions. It's been an emtional year for me with my dad's health issues and then passing away and I have been sticking close to home and spending alot of time with family. I don't want to end up an old maid either, would truly love to have a good guy in my life but it's not easy. And I don't know if I have the emotional strength to deal with the stuff men throw at you.
annxxdisaster Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I'll convert to Judaism, bake Challah all the time, and you can support me through grad school!
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I make a mean french toast from Challah bread.
Author bananaboat11 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 I'll convert to Judaism, bake Challah all the time, and you can support me through grad school! Deal! Oh... wait. I get paid to go through grad school... you don't??? that sucks!
annxxdisaster Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Deal! Oh... wait. I get paid to go through grad school... you don't??? that sucks! I'm not there just yet! I have one more year left for my undergrad, then I'm off to some Ph.D. program somewhere.
Author bananaboat11 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 I'm not there just yet! I have one more year left for my undergrad, then I'm off to some Ph.D. program somewhere. you'll get there =) never thought i would. heh
make me believe Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 What's the problem here? Just because you don't want to date now doesn't mean you won't want to in the future. It also doesn't mean you won't randomly stumble upon somebody who completely changes your mind about dating when you least expect it.
Author bananaboat11 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 What's the problem here? Just because you don't want to date now doesn't mean you won't want to in the future. It also doesn't mean you won't randomly stumble upon somebody who completely changes your mind about dating when you least expect it. well.. I kind of already have. The thing is... a) she's bi... b) she's dating someone (for the last 12 months or so)... c) she let me know she wants to break up with him d) she wants to hang out with me again... (we've only gone out once and had a good time) e) she's the barista... people who've seen my past thread on her will know this one LOL f) I don't want to sleep with her right away. I'm VERY attracted her more than just sexually... I don't want the physical aspect of a relationship to ruin any potential for a future... I do want to be physical... just not the bad physical. Y'know? The chemical interactions that occlude our brain to the neurotransmitter interactions that make us believe and allude to infatuation rather than love due to the intense orgasmic pleasure shared between two individuals during a physical bond that exceeds the bounds of reality... heh...
Knittress Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I know exactly how you feel. As do many, many others. It's probably a good lesson though, learning how to deal with loneliness, stress, and managing your own life without the help of anyone else. It'll probably make us cooler people and better partners in the end, don't you think?
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