DustySaltus Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 (edited) So you've finally made the decision to cut off all contact with your ex. Ok, now what? I don't think there's any specific plan to follow but I just thought I'd share what I did to try and move forward after I turned the page: 1. Write down as many positive and negatives events that occured in the relationship. Were the negative issues addressed? Were the positive events as great as you made them out to be? This exercise is more about processing what happened more than anything else. 2. Think back to the day BEFORE you met your EX, who were you? Were you happy with yourself? I existed for 26 years before we re-connected and I was happy. I know I can get back to that place... 3. Think about the person(s) you may have neglected (other than perhaps yourself) most once you started going out with your ex. Give them a call. 4. Think about things that you wanted to do to better yourself but may have put to the side when you were focusing those energies on your ex. 5. Understand that lingering bitterness is like trying to move forward in a car that is stuck in neutral, you go nowhere. 6. When you start to love yourself again more than you loved your ex...it's time to get back out there. 7. Understand that being in a relationship that didn't work is never a waste of time. Every relationship we have had provides us with tools and information that leads to better ones. Better communication, better understanding of our needs and others. The biggest injustice that you can do to your future is not to learn, grow or embrace your past experiences. Just my $.02 DS Edited April 27, 2010 by DustySaltus
SadKitty78 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Thank you! This was so helpful! I bet a therapist would've made a client do those exercises over a 2 month period and charge them $100 per session once a week for 2 months! I love your comparison lingering bitterness to the car stuck in neutral...
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