MrMayI Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 and it stung. i've been doing well, but yesterday was the kick in the balls to remind me i'm not completely where i want to be. i didn't mention it at all to those around me, but i split from town and went to see friends i don't see often. anyway, totally random thought. hope everyone's doing well. to the new folks, it gets better. buckle the **** up. it's a neckbreaker for a while.
You Go Girl Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 We're all a work in progress and never get to just where we want to be...as long as you're on the right path for you-- some days are just like that. Reminds me I wanted to start a thread on how do we each pick ourselves up on down days. Number 1--I have to get up, sometimes yanking myself up, and go do something else and occupy my mind with something other than doom and gloom. Break the habit. Going to see friends you haven't in awhile--good for you! Isolation is the worst, being afraid to share with old friends that it's over, and avoiding those good friendships to avoiding telling them is the second worst.
2.50 a gallon Posted May 5, 2010 Posted May 5, 2010 MMI Sorry I missed you post, I have been away for a week It is part of that roller coaster ride, and even though with time it smooths out, for the first few years there are triggers that spike you to the highest drop again. My anniversary was over the Christmas holidays, so my trigger was the whole holiday season, not just one day. I always had my latest squeeze to fall back on, but it wasn't the same. There was this emptiness that no one could fill. It takes a few years and then you reach a point where you forget. It has been over a week, so how you doing now? RU still dating?
Author MrMayI Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 MMI Sorry I missed you post, I have been away for a week It is part of that roller coaster ride, and even though with time it smooths out, for the first few years there are triggers that spike you to the highest drop again. My anniversary was over the Christmas holidays, so my trigger was the whole holiday season, not just one day. I always had my latest squeeze to fall back on, but it wasn't the same. There was this emptiness that no one could fill. It takes a few years and then you reach a point where you forget. It has been over a week, so how you doing now? RU still dating? indeed, i am still dating. i've had a dry spell these past few weeks, but a girl i dated way back when has re-emerged into my life. she's mid-divorce now, but it's nice to have her back in town and around to talk to. i'm very fond of her, as she has not bad mouthed her stbx or anything and her situation almost mirrors what i went through. i learned what type of person my ex is because of the bull**** she tried to spread around about me. this girl is being very honorable and playing it all very close to the chest. admirable. the DD has told me no less than 4 different guys names her mommy has taken her to dinner with in the past couple of weeks. it's pathetic. i am very liberal with the visitation and she could wait until she doesn't have DD to go on dates, or even hang around with all of these guys. however, it affects me not at all, except that i don't want my precious little girl to get older and think her mother's a... well, you know. everything's back to pretty much a-ok. i still get a bit of the blues here and there, but i know it's to be expected. cheers everyone. chins up. we're gonna make it.
trippi1432 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 indeed, i am still dating. i've had a dry spell these past few weeks, but a girl i dated way back when has re-emerged into my life. she's mid-divorce now, but it's nice to have her back in town and around to talk to. i'm very fond of her, as she has not bad mouthed her stbx or anything and her situation almost mirrors what i went through. i learned what type of person my ex is because of the bull**** she tried to spread around about me. this girl is being very honorable and playing it all very close to the chest. admirable. the DD has told me no less than 4 different guys names her mommy has taken her to dinner with in the past couple of weeks. it's pathetic. i am very liberal with the visitation and she could wait until she doesn't have DD to go on dates, or even hang around with all of these guys. however, it affects me not at all, except that i don't want my precious little girl to get older and think her mother's a... well, you know. everything's back to pretty much a-ok. i still get a bit of the blues here and there, but i know it's to be expected. cheers everyone. chins up. we're gonna make it. I hear ya MMI - April must have been the month for weddings, my four year would have been last month too (as well as our 16th year together).....spent the evening drunk and on IM with my UK friend NobMagnet. If possible (cuz she can't refute this yet), she kept me sane that night. Sorry to hear about the DD...there's a right time and a wrong time to expose children to other people, I didn't get much choice in the matter myself. But, then again, my STBXH and his GF are getting married as soon as her divorce is final later this year (ours will be final in September). Who knows, maybe my STBXH will prove other WAS's out there that he is different and be a good husband to her. It is what it is.... Keep your chin up MMI....something better will come along...maybe already has....but just keep working on being your best.
Gunny376 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 No doubt it has to do with my having done twenty years in the Corps? But as you grow up? You learn there's no such thing as Santa Claus, nor the Tooth Fairy, nor Easter Rabbit. Christmas? Just another day I didn't get my happy @zz shot nor blown up! My birthday means a lot, because being alive beats the Hell out of the alternative! New Years? Thank God I made it through last year! Not to down-play your pain ~ I know its still pretty raw for you ~ but the 24th of September 1979 ~ the day I got married? Just another day in September! Doesn't mean a thing! All that matters is your keeping and staying alive and being there for that little girl of yours ~ and that my Man? Is all that matters!
Author MrMayI Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 thanks gunny. you're right. it actually just stung a little. didn't really hurt, and didn't effect me 1/10th of what i was projecting in my mind. next year will likely just pass on by.
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