mr heartbroken Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Ok so its been over a year. Thought i would update. I haven't spoken to my ex since her birthday in september. Her parents sent me a birthday card this month. Seen her little cousin last week. All these things mind F**ked me. I Did what everyone told me. Go out and have fun, Go meet other woman. Have fun with other woman.... Ticked all the boxes! Even dated for a couple of months. Had some amazing times on nights out and Holidays. Found out who my mates really are. Thing is still now i still think about her everyday. All the time. I know that many of you will think JUST GET A GRIP! I want to move on and really wish i could..... I don't know why i can't.....
skydiveaddict Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I know how you feel . I cant seem to move on either
Author mr heartbroken Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 It's not good. How long hasit been?
Eisenhower Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Don't feel alone - I'm in the same boat. Been 13 months since we broke up. I was on the end of her string until last October when I found out she'd started seeing someone else and I went no contact. But I'm still hurting and think of her every day. Frankly, it worries me that I can't seem to get over her. Thinking about her being with someone else almost makes me hurt physically. It's torture. I haven't even tried to find someon new because I'm still so pained by the breakup and heartache. Anyway ... I feel your pain. Sorry, man. Eisenhower
fiat500 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 it took me 2 years to get over my ex. just keep hanging out with your friends and keep your heart open to new people. keep going and be strong! people care about you and are rooting for you!
skydiveaddict Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 It's not good. How long hasit been? 5 months, but it seems like just yesterday
lisal0u Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I know how you all feel too! I'm 3 months post dumping after 14 years and I feel horrid still! It's not helped by the fact he already has a new girlfriend! The friend that was ONLY a friend!!! I feel very angry and bitter because of what he has taken away, his love, the future I wanted, my dream house, a year and a half of my life renovating it, possibly kids! I'm 32 and worry that there is not enough time for me to heal, move on, meet someone new, build a realtionship then have kids before it's too late! Somebody posted on here to give yourself a month for every year you were together! Another 11 months for me then :-(
SlowHealer Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 13 month here. I wish I were better. She has 2 kids. I think that makes it worse. Anyone else have the ex's kids involved?
collegemommy Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 13 month here. I wish I were better. She has 2 kids. I think that makes it worse. Anyone else have the ex's kids involved? I do. My ex has two kids from a previous relationship and one with me. It's so much worse because I constantly miss the kids. They lived with us for the past year and I have know them since the youngest was 10 months old (she is now 5).
sean1970 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I'm 32 and worry that there is not enough time for me to heal, move on, meet someone new, build a realtionship then have kids before it's too late! Nonsense... You are attractive, articulate, and dammit people like you This breakup, this injury, is really like any actual flesh wound. A leg injury, if you will, that had you needing a wheelchair for a spell. You are forced, for a time, to see the world from a different perspective. You have new challenges but also new experiences that have the potential to change you at a fundamental level. Soon enough, you will get up and other parts of you will be stronger from the experience. There are many here that would never wish the pain of a breakup on Satan himself. However, I am certain that the majority would say they are better from it... Have been able to appreciate themselves more and select better mates from the experience...
USMCHokie Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Almost 9 months...about 7.5 of which were NC...yea, I still think about her a lot...but fortunately it doesn't hurt like it used to...you just have to let time do its magic...
Sbrizio Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 more or less 10 months, 8 since our last contact. I've been improving a lot and enjoying life more and more, but lately i feel like i took several steps back... the anniversary of our getting together just passed, and this is the season during which i fell in love with her. Some days the pain is unbearable like it was 6 months ago, but it passes far quickly and i'm able to function and work without problems even during the painful time (whereas 6 month ago i would simply switch off and weep). The though of her with her new guy is pure torture and drives me crazy. I've been liking new girls on a very superficial level, but i feel unable to feel anything deep, nor any kind of involvement for any girl. I'm with you guys, i see that everyone here is in the same place... and i wish to all of us to find the way out. to be honest today i doubt i would love someone else as i loved her F.
Author mr heartbroken Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 I was doing ok until I got a card from my ex's mum. I felt I had to respond. I called and we had a chat. Her parents had just come back from a holiday visiting familey. Her mum said that everbody is asking after me and hopes I am well. She then says she often wonders what I am up too. Then a couple of weeks later a meet her little cousin, who goes on to tell me that she is crazy to have let me go! That again everyone is missing me! The the killer blow SHE IS DATING SOMEONE. he continues to say that he doesn't like her for what she has done and that she's a snob at this point I find myself sticking up for here! WHY? My mind is still very confused! I know I still miss her and could easly name 100 things I miss! Could she?
soheartbroken Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Hey. There's nothing wrong with you. Been 9 months for me, 8 of NC, and I'm far from over her. I'm not saying that I'm normal (I'm probably one of the worst off on these boards, but my life was also thrown into major turmoil), but I've done enough reading to know that one year is not necessarily enough time to heal. I'm giving myself 2-3 years, then I'll really know I'm in trouble! Take care, hang in there (like I know you are).
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