paleblue Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 My ex gf apologized to me last friday for being “mis-leading” towards me she said, about her status with her new bf. The thing is i don’t really care about it, or her apology. Its just more annoying than anything else at this point. One week she acts like things are awful, contacting me and crying how its over, then the two weeks later she tells me things are great again and they never really broke up. Wow!! With “friends” like this to use me as a doormat who needs enemies? Too bad it doesn’t really affect me that much anymore. I keep putting my hand out in friendship because she said she wants to also, but i just cant help feeling constantly dis-respected!! Like i never get the whole story. So why bother? None of my other friends are like that. So now i am thinking can you really be friends with an ex? It doesn’t really seem to pan out. Regardless whatever is going on with her, it hasn’t stopped me from meeting new women. Been talking to another girl for the last several months. Think i could get a straight answer out of her either?? Nope! Not at all. Its just more teasing and cryptic messages. She shows up here and there, and then disappears. Im always guessing. Too bad she hasn’t stopped me from meeting other women either. So i go on a new date saturday, and just like that! Bam! The interest was there. She even wanted xoxo’s on the first date! Its was really comfy and the attraction is there for both of us! Now we have decided to spend some time getting to know each other instead of continuing to date others. Its straight up! Just like that. No guessing or cryptic messages. She is really cute too!! Certainly cuter than my ex!! And cuter than the other teaser ive been talking too. So my point in all this is, don’t give up! Keep meeting new people until you are happy. And don’t settle! I have prob met 20 different girls in the last two years since the break-up. Went thru lots of ups, downs, players, games and whatever else out there, like the above, but if you stick with it eventually you will meet someone that is a good match for you!!! You just have to keep trying. You have to have a little faith in yourself, your mission, and you have to feel good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, you look good. Remember you are a valuable worthy person as well, that is just as deserving of something good in life. Even if you have to go thru 20 or 30 of them.. Keep at it until you wind up with a match that makes you happy!!! I also suggest people out there pining over your exes…. Cut your losses now, and move on!!!! It is the only way to move on with your life. You will save yourself a lot of time and grief. Spend time on yourself and get them out of your head. Yes, i realize it is easier said than done. But looking back i wish i had just cut my losses from day one, instead of dragging it out. Chances are that a second chance will likely wind up like the first. So save some face now! And preserve your dignity! All the crying, begging, doormatish behavior, just forget it!!! You look like a dam fool to your ex. Your ex isn’t going to respect you if you don’t respect yourself. Either will anyone else. Just do your best to pick yourself up off the floor, dust yourself off, and take care of yourself. Get back into a normal frame of mind, and lifestyle. Learn to feel good about yourself again. Because you will find someone else that is good, if not even better for you, that will love and respect you! For you! It has taken me two long years to get to this point.
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