guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Hi folks, I know a lot of people think dancing is just as platonic as watching a ball game -- but I personally have a different opinion. While I'll watch TV with just about anyone, I'm a bit more selective when it comes to a dancing partner... I dated a girl for a few years and the relationship ended in good terms. My ex-GF was in town last week and we went out for drinks. Later on in the evening, one of her friends (Annie) showed up. I know her quite well too as she used to always come over at our apartment. Anyhow, during the conversation I mentioned I'd love to take some dance lessons and Annie immediately proposed to go with me. My ex-GF pretended to be half-jealous by saying "hey you guys are not allowed to go together"... Later on that evening, Annie mentioned we should hang out, etc. Is Annie just being friendly?
2sure Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Odds are good she is just seeing this as an opportunity to do something she has wanted to do but didnt have anyone else to go with: Take dance lessons. I have taken them with another married man simply because his wife didnt want to and my husband didnt have time. It was great because we were both free of any self consciousness we might have had with a "date" or competitiveness we might have had with our spouses (at least for mine).
Author guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 I have taken them with another married man simply because his wife didnt want to and my husband didnt have time. It was great because we were both free of any self consciousness we might have had with a "date" or competitiveness we might have had with our spouses (at least for mine). That's interesting. Personally, if I dance with someone and there's some light rubbing (because there will inevitably be some light rubbing of genitals involved), I get turned on... I wouldn't take dance lessons with my sister or a friend's GF because I view it as a sexual situation -- although lots of people disagree with me (which is fine, too!).
sally4sara Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I did take some dance classes as an adult and it had nothing to do with an attraction to anyone. If fact, it is easier to learn something without something like an attraction distracting you. One instructor even advised couples not take the beginner class together.
123BeachFan Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 My answer: it probably depends on the type of dancing. The close body-rubbing type of dancing you mention should be reserved for someone that you don't mind rubbing your body against . Other types of dancing, where there's more of a "polite" distance between the two partners, I'd say is perfectly reasonable for two platonic friends. So, I'd say, take your platonic friend up on her offer to take dance lessons with you, just select a dance style that will keep you at that safe distance...
Author guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 My answer: it probably depends on the type of dancing. The close body-rubbing type of dancing you mention should be reserved for someone that you don't mind rubbing your body against . Other types of dancing, where there's more of a "polite" distance between the two partners, I'd say is perfectly reasonable for two platonic friends. So, I'd say, take your platonic friend up on her offer to take dance lessons with you, just select a dance style that will keep you at that safe distance... Actually, I wouldn't mind a bit of dirty dancing... Annie never proposed any activity for all these years, and now suddenly...
Author guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 I did take some dance classes as an adult and it had nothing to do with an attraction to anyone. If fact, it is easier to learn something without something like an attraction distracting you. One instructor even advised couples not take the beginner class together. Interesting. Perhaps you may be referring to some formal type of dancing? Personally, the last thing I would want is for some unattractive stranger to feel my johnson against their tummy...
sally4sara Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Interesting. Perhaps you may be referring to some formal type of dancing? Personally, the last thing I would want is for some unattractive stranger to feel my johnson against their tummy... Any kind of dancing can be formally taught. It was a co-ed class; most people find me attractive. I never once felt a partner's johnson poking my belly.
123BeachFan Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Interesting. Perhaps you may be referring to some formal type of dancing? Personally, the last thing I would want is for some unattractive stranger to feel my johnson against their tummy... Dance lessons that involve mutual pelvic grinding is probably the exception rather than the rule My guess is you're thinking of Latino dance a la Dirty Dancing, that sort of thing? Most dance styles that would be taught in a dance class would be less of a, um, contact sport.
sweetjasmine Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 The salsa, samba, rumba, etc. you learn in a ballroom dancing class doesn't involve mutual pelvic grinding. I dance salsa with family members, and it's not sexual at all.
Author guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 Most dance styles that would be taught in a dance class would be less of a, um, contact sport. I hear what you're saying... I'm by no means a great dancer. In fact, I really don't dance all that often but every time I dance with a woman, whether it is deliberate or accidental, we usual end up close enough for her to feel my johnson at some point during the song. When we were in grade school, we used to keep an arm's length with our partners, but not anymore...
Author guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 The salsa, samba, rumba, etc. you learn in a ballroom dancing class doesn't involve mutual pelvic grinding. I dance salsa with family members, and it's not sexual at all. If you watch this video: In my view, this is a sensual (but still pretty tame) dance. While they are not grinding per se, at the 0:30 mark there is some kind of contact. He may not poke her directly, but I think it remains close enough. Am I being too much of a prude?
sally4sara Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 If you watch this video: In my view, this is a sensual (but still pretty tame) dance. While they are not grinding per se, at the 0:30 mark there is some kind of contact. He may not poke her directly, but I think it remains close enough. Am I being too much of a prude? IDK. Wear a cup it it really worries you?
Author guy.lepage Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 IDK. Wear a cup it it really worries you? Ha! Good one... I actually wouldn't mind for her to feel it. I just didn't know what were the common standards around this.
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