Heatemyheart89 Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 (edited) Since he dumped me. Since then he's toyed with me saying he missed me and there was a chance we'd get back together. Now nothing. I've said/done the lot said I love him/ miss him. His response:' I don't know what to say!I don't feel the same way about you anymore! ' I don't know why I still want him when I've been told theres not a chance we will get back together. After we split he went straight to the girl I suspected he would. She's a complete s***( sorry but she is) I torture myself looking at his facebook and unfortunately I get updates from my friend who knows him. No one understands it either. People have said to me 'I don't know why you were with him' I suppose I live in fear I'll never get over it. The rejection hurts. It makes you feel pretty worthless. Please someone say I'll get over this. It's the worst thing thats happend to me I never thought I's be like this over anyone!:(It's become a major problem for me. I've humiliated myself loads of times with him (stupid texts phone calls etc) I thought I was better than that. Edited April 26, 2010 by Heatemyheart89
EthanH Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 My ex split with me 2 months ago, so i know how you are feeling. But, there is one thing i want to make really clear to you, this is something which scares me, something which even I don't want to admit, but I know is true. You will only get over him if you want to you say you are scared, but the fact is, you don't want to get over him. Doing things like looking at fb is never ever going to make you feel better. Look at it logically, what do you think you are going to see which is good? He is getting on with his life without you, so anything you see will upset you, unless you expect to see he has a photo of you together as his profile pic...? I mean... why do something which you know is going to hurt you? Just stop looking at it. Just stop and look at what you are doing to yourself. You are only feeling rejection because you are allowing yourself to. You have your happiness in your own hands. If you want to be happy, you can, if not, don't complain when you aren't.
gavinus Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 (edited) I know how you feel Heatemyheart89! All my friends say why would I want my awful abusive ex back in my life, yet she has moved on fine and I am alone....What I do know the right thing to do is to stop FB him!! You must erase him from your life. You cannot erase him from your memories but you torturing yourself won't bring him back. What helps me is writing an email/diary which i will never send. I write down how I feel.....then delete it, it makes me feel better. For all he knows you have met an amazing guy and are so happy without him in your life!! It is a lie but silence is golden Tell all your friends who are in contact with you both that you are so happy etc. Retake your power, you survived before you met him, the reason you met him was to make you a stronger person. Everytime you contact him, you feed his ego/power, don't you feel angry enough to never do it again? Stay strong, love yourself, and realize what you never want in your life again, every-time you feed him, he tells everybody he knows, you are worth so much more. My new quote for my life is everybody wants to be treated well...but I deserve what I put up with. You are worth so much more, be strong you can do it, you are not alone! How do you know you have the best, only because you have had the worst, stay strong!! Edited April 26, 2010 by gavinus
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