butterflysil Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 one year currently. i use to complain for not having any in 5 months now i understand true frustration.
just-me12 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 around 6 weeks. i think, i lost my virginity 1 and half years ago, and have only had one relationship for 3months in that times, i hate my sexual past lukily only one person knows the extent of it
eric82 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 you don't want to its no fun! but then, you might not have a choice.. ominous strings, clouds on the horizon!! ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!! i NEVER EVER EVER thought i would go this long without it, but when you have to choose between really unhealthy situations and being sexless.. well, i just hope i don't die before i have sex again.. then its okay! I know exactly what you mean by unhealthy situations. Just this past weekend I had a recently divorced mother of two want to pounce on me right before I found out her rebound guy was coming over her apartment. I went over there just to catch up and ask how her kids are handling the divorce and what was to come of their home. She went to sit on my lap and when I pushed her off, she directly asked me to "f*ck" her. I've known her and her soon to be ex-husband for like 8 years and their marriage fell apart earlier this year. Even if I became blackout drunk and hypothetically wanted to (I don't), I think I would still have the gut level reaction to avoid that Chernobyl disaster, you know . But I know other dudes would probably 'hit it and quit it.' No thanks. It's been about 15 months for me. Before this, I went like 2 years. Don't get me wrong, I have had opportunities and I know of at least a couple girls that I could probably have sex with right now if I wanted to, but I have to feel both attraction and a connection to stick my dick in a woman . The way I see it, if I'm just looking to get off, I have myself for that. If I'm getting it on with someone else, there's a reason for it beyond just her body or willingness. And the last thing I ever intend to do is use someone the way I have been used. Unfortunately, this mindset has definitely worked against me as I don't come across what I consider to be high quality women often and ones I think are, well obviously, turn out to not be right for me as I'm single. I know, I know.. my people picker is off. I tell ya, standards just might be the death of me.
tami-chan Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 During a five-year marriage, I went three years without sex. During a 12-year relationship, I went eight years without sex. My last 2 1/2-year relationship went 18 months without sex when I broke up with him. I'm now single and going on month number six with no signs of any prospects. I have a feeling that 2010 will go down for me as an entirely celibate year and I'm single and willing! I knew I wasn't the only one who went years without it by choice and sheer discipline!
eric82 Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 My longest dry spell is about 5 or 6 weeks after the breakup of my last relationship. I can't imagine going years or even months without sex! Imagine becoming disfigured and paralyzed in a car accident. You wouldn't even be able to kill yourself because you're paralyzed... you'd actually have to cope alone. That just might 'make me believe' that you can go without sex. Then again, with that kind of cryptic situation being a real possibility, maybe I should be out there humping like a rabbit.
make me believe Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Imagine becoming disfigured and paralyzed in a car accident. You wouldn't even be able to kill yourself because you're paralyzed... you'd actually have to cope alone. That just might 'make me believe' that you can go without sex. Then again, with that kind of cryptic situation being a real possibility, maybe I should be out there humping like a rabbit. Well when ya put it like that..! Really, though, if I had to choose between unhealthy (for me) situations like eric82 described & going without sex, of course I'd choose no sex! I'd rather have nothing than have meaningless sex with a stranger.
Cracker Jack Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I only ever did it a few times, and that was when I was 20. I'm 22 now, so....yeah.
Evolo Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I've been lurking this forum for a while, but this thread made me lol so I decided to register and finally post. In my current long-term (four year) relationship, the longest has probably been about 6 months..... and infrequently (like once every 6 weeks or so) for about 2 years. BF was/is going through a really rough patch at work hence a mild depression and non-existant libido. I've been understanding and supportive, but it does get a little hurtful to be turned down by someone you love, especially as a woman (considering that old ingrained stereotype of men wanting sex all the time). And we're only in our early twenties.
BubbleFreak Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 My "dry spell" is nothing in comparison to other posts here... I'm 23 now and since I started having sex when I was 19, longest I've gone without is 2 weeks... only because I was overseas without my bf around.
stellaluna Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I started having sex around the age of 16. In the last ten years my longest dry spell was about a month- that was when I was in the hospital. Since then, I can't recall a time when I've gone more than 6 days. Thank technology for speed dial.
harmfulsweetz Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 18 months. Although I've a feeling this dry spell may well beat that... six months and counting, no real prospects although working on it:laugh:
Trimmer Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Just around 4 years even, after my split and divorce. Happily, I'm no longer adding "and counting." (Although, I suppose at this moment, technically, I should be starting a new count... )
MyNameIsJonas Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Not counting the portion of my life before I lost my v-card, about 4 months and counting, actually. First attempt at a FWB (her idea) that ended horribly; been apathetic about dating/women since and DC is a difficult ONS city unless you are cool with going home with a burner.
somedude81 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Between 35 and 40 years. My whole life. Serious or are you just trolling?
The Lone Wolf Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 A little over a year, I was off of a good relationship and just didnt find myself attracted to anyone for the longest time.
Shakz Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Exactly one year, by choice. Otherwise, maybe a few weeks?
kalikula Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 2 - 3 months? Well... I only started having sex when I was 19. So it went bf, *end of June- August*, new bf, *mid-December to mid-February*, long distance unofficial relationship, *a couple weeks*, Guy I'm Dating now. (Things dont look good..) But it's only been a couple years, so I assume I will have a long dry spell eventually.
gamma1 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) 42.5 years... my whole life. Um, that would be 31 years. ( I'm 31 ) Serious or are you just trolling? I'm very serious. I'm in my late 30s and have never had sex. I've never gotten far enough with a woman. They are almost always not interested in pursuing anything because there are no sparks between us. I want to find love and sex like anyone else, but I come up empty no matter how hard I try. The only thing that gives me comfort is seeing 2 others that have suffered like I have. Edited June 26, 2010 by gamma1
somedude81 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Dude there is no comfort to be had in being a member of the 30 year old virgin club. You need to take a long hard look at yourself and try to figure out why women don't like you. And what you think, women want in a man.
gamma1 Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Dude there is no comfort to be had in being a member of the 30 year old virgin club. You need to take a long hard look at yourself and try to figure out why women don't like you. And what you think, women want in a man. somedude81, I have to find comfort where I can get it or else I'll go nuts thinking about it. I've spent countless hours wondering why women don't like me in a romantic way. I get along with them well in a platonic way. Maybe most women want the perfect man? I really have no idea what women want in a man. Everything I've tried so far has been a colossal failure.
TheWatcher Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Dude there is no comfort to be had in being a member of the 30 year old virgin club. You need to take a long hard look at yourself and try to figure out why women don't like you. And what you think, women want in a man. As a 38 yr old guy who has yet to have his first kiss...I agree with you. However,I think that most guys who are 30 plus & unexperienced have already figured out why women are not interested in them & have a good grasp on what women want. I don't think that knowing what women want will eventually lead to success.For instance,I think that I have a pretty good idea of what women are generally looking for & desire;.But I personally can't give it to them. I think that for Disillusioned & ABrokenWing that it will get to the point (as it has for me) that being alone,inexperienced & unsuccessful with women...will become part of their identity....something that partly defines them.
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