Romance Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Alright, so I'm in a long distance relationship (yes, i know there is a board for that, but this goes more into relationship things too) and I need to decide what to do next year as for college. Option A) I can move 5 hours away and go to a college near my boyfriend(an hour away from him, so thats significantly closer, we would see each other a lot) We are in a serious relationship, we've dated 2 years. We have discussed living together when we finish school and marriage etc. (which does not mean it will happen, I know. But I'm just letting you know it isn't a fling) I won't know anyone or have any family there, but i'll have a car to drive home once a month or so. and of course i can make friends. It is a great college. The distance really hurts me, I am not a very emotional person but this makes me cry almost like, once a week. It's just really hard for me to not physically be with someone. Option B) Go to a college 30 minutes from my home, still be around all of my friends and close to family. It's also a pretty good college. Will still have the distance with my bf then, for 3 more years. I absolutely CANNOT decide if it would be incredibly stupid and silly to go to school near him. He isn't the ONLY reason but he is a large part of it. My family is fine with it(they even think I should go to his college! thats a bit too obsessive for me though lol) if you read all/most of that, thank you so much!
brainygirl Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Go to the better school for what you are wanting to do. Five hours away from family is still close enough to visit on weekends and holidays and to get there in a hurry if you need to.
Author Romance Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 I do feel like it'd be good for our relationship, since one of my worries is that if we see each other more, the novelty could wear off and we won't feel the same about each other. so this would be good. I just don't wanna transfer colleges again, since I will be transferring out of one university this year. So I hope I like it! I guess you only live once. I really dont like my town, but i love my friends and family--they're really the only thing making me doubt myself
Lakeside_runner Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Go! Explore the world! There is sooo much more out there than we all know! 5 hours is not a big deal - you can see your family quite often. As far as your BF is concerned - he'll either respect your decision and support your dreams or it just won't work out - but hey: THE WORLD IS HUGE AND FULL OF AWESOME PEOPLE!
spookie Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 dont be afraid to leave your hometown, but dont transfer schools just cause of your bf, either.
USMCHokie Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Option A. Every time. College is the time to experience new things and meet new people. Believe me when I say that you will have an infinitely better college experience if you go there knowing NO ONE...because you will be forced out of your comfort zone and placed in an environment to meet new people and hone your social skills. It will be these friends that you make in college that will become lifelong friends (at least for me they were, but it was a slightly nontraditional environment). There will no longer be that bubble of your friends and family back at home. If you went to school close to home, you would more than likely spend most of your time with existing friends and not bother meeting too many new people. I say this regardless of your boyfriend. If all else was equal (tuition, costs, quality of school, etc.), I'd strongly recommend getting away for college. I was five and a half hours from home, and it was definitely close enough to go home whenever I needed but far enough away to "start a new life" in college. Option A. Done.
Author Romance Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 Option A. Every time. College is the time to experience new things and meet new people. Believe me when I say that you will have an infinitely better college experience if you go there knowing NO ONE...because you will be forced out of your comfort zone and placed in an environment to meet new people and hone your social skills. It will be these friends that you make in college that will become lifelong friends (at least for me they were, but it was a slightly nontraditional environment). There will no longer be that bubble of your friends and family back at home. If you went to school close to home, you would more than likely spend most of your time with existing friends and not bother meeting too many new people. I say this regardless of your boyfriend. If all else was equal (tuition, costs, quality of school, etc.), I'd strongly recommend getting away for college. I was five and a half hours from home, and it was definitely close enough to go home whenever I needed but far enough away to "start a new life" in college. Option A. Done. yeah I only have 3 REALLY good friends here, the rest i could do without. I just did my freshmen year at a nearby college while i decided where i really wanted to go..so I do think it'd be good for me. I just hope i'd make friends, I worry! But I do think I might have more fun, it'd be my first time being on my own
sweetjasmine Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 If you went to school close to home, you would more than likely spend most of your time with existing friends and not bother meeting too many new people. I went to school half an hour from home and met plenty of new people. I didn't spend most of my time with friends from back home. /shrug
USMCHokie Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 yeah I only have 3 REALLY good friends here, the rest i could do without. I just did my freshmen year at a nearby college while i decided where i really wanted to go..so I do think it'd be good for me. I just hope i'd make friends, I worry! But I do think I might have more fun, it'd be my first time being on my own And your really good friends will still be there whenever you come home...and it will make trips back home that much more special...and being on your own will be great for you...this is the time to learn, make mistakes, and learn some more... And don't worry, you will have NO problem making friends...unless you make a serious effort not to make friends, it's almost impossible to not make friends in a college environment... Good luck to you in whereever you decide to go!
USMCHokie Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I went to school half an hour from home and met plenty of new people. I didn't spend most of my time with friends from back home. /shrug Of course. I just expressed some general patterns and likely outcomes of being in that situation...I had friends that went both ways in that regard...some left behind their high school friends, while others just stayed within that crowd...
D-Lish Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 A great college and a pretty good college will not make a huge difference in your career down the road. It's reasonable to think that if you are qualified, with a degree, you'll succeed.
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