endlessblueskies Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 So me and my boyfriend are having some rough times right now. A month before we met I was diagnosed with HPV. I told him about it shortly after we started talking before I agreed to be his gf. I told him everything about my past to kind of say "this is what all has happened to me, what I've done,etc." so he could go before we got too involved. But he didn't leave. He told me he was falling in love with me, he understood what he was getting into and it was ok. He is an awesome guy, he's been there through a lot of stress and rough times. He's helped me face and work on overcoming my past and vice versa. But this week we've been thrown a big test in our relationship. I had a doctors appointment this week and my doc found abnormal cells in my cervix, either high risk of turning into cancer..or...cancer. I knew this was a big risk with having HPV but didn't expect a scare so quickly. I've been dealing with a lot of stuff plus day to day stress and I'm trying to maintain some bravery. But..I'm scared...I'm terrified of losing him or putting him and my family/friends through all the stress, and I'm scared of going through treatments and such if I have it. I've talked to him about it( we're in an LDR), but most of the time I wind up bursting into tears and I've been hitting some depression lately. He tries to help, he is there for me, but the past few days, he hasn't initiated phone calls, and doesn't text me as often. I'm afraid of putting him through this-he swears that he will be here in sickness or health, but I'm still concerned. Even though I'm trying to be understanding that he gets busy and all I really need to just talk sometimes... I'm so frustrated right now and worried...any advice?
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I've been there. Honestly, if I had it to do all over again I would have joined a support group for other people like me and vent a majority of my fears/anxieties with them rather than to someone who really doesn't understand or have much of a capacity to handle the overwhelming feelings that come with having cancer. They feel like you are asking them for the sort of help and support that they literally don't know how to give - and some don't stick around. Unfortunately, I didn't join a group and the guy I was with dumped me - he just couldn't handle it and my family could only handle so much. I never felt like they really *got it* fully even though they were overwhelmingly supportive. Would your doctor be able to help you find a group that you can join to help you with this? It really does help to be able to be with a group of people who really DO understand and can handle whatever you say.
D-Lish Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I've had 2 abnormal pap tests in my lifetime. The second pap always turned out fine. It is normal to have these abnormal tests sometimes. If your second test is abnormal, they'll send you for a colposcopy. If it does turn out to be cervical cancer, it's really treatable when they catch it early. It's one of the less aggressive cancers when caught early.
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