nolanola Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I'm just feeling a bit sad today. I have been NC for almost 6 weeks now and I can say that it does help quite a bit. The last time I talked to my ex, I ran into him at work. He came and stood by my desk and talked to me for a while. While he was standing there, he was texting his "very good friend" (who happens to be married to someone else) and telling me about how they're going to have dinner and where they're going and all that. It hurt me very badly and in a moment of complete stupidity later that night I texted him that I was sad that he and I don't have much of a friendship anymore. He texted me back that he thought we should go to dinner or something and that he hoped I was happy (he broke up with me by the way). I had had a fire in my apartment that day (worst day ever!) and told him about it and he called to see if I was ok. We talked about it for a bit and then I brought up how I was feeling about seeing him and how sad it made me. He went into this long thing about how important I was to him, that he thought about me everyday, and that he considered our relationship to be one of the most important in his life ( although he did say "not really romantically, we never really could make that work"). He asked who I was staying with (since I couldn't stay at my place) - I just said "friends". He seemed to want to talk more, but I told him I had to go because the people I was staying with were waiting on me. We hung up and I haven't heard from him since, although I think I saw him driving near my house a week or so ago (he doesn't live anywhere near me and has done a drive-by before). I feel so sad about this. I feel like everything he said on the phone was a lie. He never even called to see if I was ok or if my place was ok after the fire. I guess I shouldn't be too surprised. He is a recovering alcoholic/addict and has serious emotional issues. I know NC is the right thing to do, but it doesn't stop me from feeling sad about it. The weird thing is that I was feeling great - I was feeling like I was finally feeling better and was glad to not be around him. I guess I'm just rebounding today.
hater13 Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I understand how you feel. You'll have some days where you feel completely fine and content and other days where you just feel like crying. This WILL happen again but you just need to get past it and let it go!! You will feel better with time If by some miracle your ex does contact you take it from there but right now focus on yourself and what you want. My ex broke up with me right before finals, the next day i had abig 50% paper due BUT i pulled through and finished my essay. It may have been the most half-***ed essay i've ever wrote in my life but i did it Just live your life and if it's meant to be it will be. Seek solace in your friends and family, if you are religious seek solace in God
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