I'm tired of my friends judging my friend and her intimate relationship

[Not the love ace]

I have a friend of mine, two friends of mine who are a couple. Their relationship is something that not many people understand but in the end they want the couple to stay together and have their opinion on whats right and wrong between the two.That's fine and dandy to have an opinion but in the end they involve and stress themselves too much over whats going good and wrong in their relationship.

 

For example, the girl in the relationship whom I am closer with (we'll call her Jane) is a big flirt and likes the attention of other guys because her boyfriend (We'll call him Bob) isn't the most affectionate emotionally or physically. Lately Jane has been messing about because her boyfriend hasn't been giving her the sexual and physical needs that she desires that other men she know are more than willing to give her.

 

Recently at a club, she was flirting with this guy and eventually they hooked up. No sex but they had intense make out sessions. Her girlfriends were up-in-arms and tried pulling her away from the guys and kept mentioning her boyfriends name. In the end she didn't care much and they were crying because what she did was so "heinous".

 

So lately they've been judging her and burying her name to the ground because she's been going out with other guys and they think what shes doing isn't right and make her look "wrong" and they believe Jane has an obligation to her boyfriend since they are a couple and she is supposed to be loyal to him. So they've made it their mission to make sure she stays faithful to her man and they get upset and seriously wimper when they see she's not doing what they want but doing what makes her happy.

 

As for Bob, they like and care for him but they are a lot closer to Jane and were her friends first. Bob on the other hand is very laid back and sometimes seems not to even care and has isn't innocent himself. I'm not quite sure what he's done but him and Jane had a threesome with their friends girl before. So yeah.

 

In the end, I'm tired of my friends judging these two or trying to "fix" or "save" their relationship. None of my other friends should be passing judgment because they have skeletons in their closest and one of my friends who tries to save them is ALWAYS messing around on her boyfriend.

 

I just believe that these two individuals are adults and they will eventually fix things and work things out amongst themselves and do what feels right for themselves whether they break up or stay together. I don't think anyone should be telling Jane what she needs to do or whats right with her. They aren't the ones in the relationship with Bob and they aren't the one sleeping with him either and vice versa.

 

I really believe that this is THEIR business and no one should try getting involved unless they ask for outside assistance from their peers or like a therapist etc. Everyone is saying Jane is making herself look bad and giving herself a bad name but I just think they need stay out her business and they need to leave Bob alone too. They might feel bad for Bob but he does he stuff too and in the end like I repeated-as much as people want to try and be the savior of this relationship only THEY can fix this.

 

I'm just so sick of my friends being righteous and truly believing they have the answer or right to say what is right and wrong in their relationship. Especially when things aren't particularly skittles in their personal relationships.

 

I hope I'm not the only one that believes that people should just butt out of their personal relationship stop stressing themselves over someones else private issue. Its nice and noble for them to want things to work out between the two but believing its your "duty" to save them I think is just immature and maybe kind of selfish.