ReadyforLove Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Does anyone actually verbally end relationships these days? If you have read my post about the "Reactivated Profile" I was seeing someone who decided to reactivate their online dating profile while we were still a "couple". We got into an argument and I have not spoken/texted him since Friday. It is safe to say that the relationship is over but I'm just wondering if I need to actually verbally tell him this? If two people just choose to not speak to each other anymore, is that enough? I feel that I do need to say something to him along the lines of "this obviously isn't working out" but not sure if it is necessary. Thoughts?
Author ReadyforLove Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 I should have added that neither of us has texted or called since Friday so it is mutual.
runner Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 if you have to say something just say it to him. but before you do, think about the end result and how it benefits him or yourself. if closure is what you seek, be honest with him about that as well. when a relationship ends, when the writing is on the wall and it's just so bloody obvious, i don't feel that too many words are necessary. actions speak louder than the best rhetoric ever will.
tkgirl Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I should have added that neither of us has texted or called since Friday so it is mutual. I'm not sure what the fight was about but I have to say that I'm glad it's over! when I read your post about him lying to you about not knowing how to de-activate his profile I was like "this guy is either a complete idiot or is lying" I mean, it's not rocket science! anyho... you haven't been dating that long right? and it sounds like the feeling could be mutual. I don't think you really have to say anything.. I mean, the writing is on the wall, right?
Author ReadyforLove Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 I'm not sure what the fight was about but I have to say that I'm glad it's over! when I read your post about him lying to you about not knowing how to de-activate his profile I was like "this guy is either a complete idiot or is lying" I mean, it's not rocket science! I basically asked him if we were exclusively dating, he said "yes". I then asked him to deactivate his profile and he got all defensive and crazy about it! This is NOT the kind of man that I want in my life. The relationship was only a month so I guess closure is not really needed! You are right, the writing is on the wall
tkgirl Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I basically asked him if we were exclusively dating, he said "yes". I then asked him to deactivate his profile and he got all defensive and crazy about it! This is NOT the kind of man that I want in my life. The relationship was only a month so I guess closure is not really needed! You are right, the writing is on the wall I'm so glad you stuck to your guns about the profile thing.. a man who says he exclusive should not have an active online profile! good for you for knowing what you want and not settling for less!
Author ReadyforLove Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 Thanks, TK. I'm happy he showed his true colors early on. Not so happy about going on "first dates" again. Oh well...
tkgirl Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Thanks, TK. I'm happy he showed his true colors early on. Not so happy about going on "first dates" again. Oh well... I hear ya... dating can be very frustrating! but as long as you know who you are and what you want, well.. that's half the battle! then it's all about finding someone who wants the same thing... he's out there! don't give up!
Author ReadyforLove Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Well now the tide has changed since he has started to contact me again. Asking how I'm doing and what's been going on with me. It would have been SO much easier if we had just ceased communication!
tkgirl Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Well now the tide has changed since he has started to contact me again. Asking how I'm doing and what's been going on with me. It would have been SO much easier if we had just ceased communication! well, you can still cease communication.. just ignore his attempts to contact you.. he probably only wants to get you back into his rotation. Guys like him don't like to lose their "options"... remember, he said you were dating exclusively but he lied... or he would have closed his dating profile. It's now up to you if you want to continue being on stand-by.. but I say it's time to officially next him!
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