Heartbroken, Alone Not Coping

[HeartbrokenAlone]

I am 23 and have been with the same girl since I was 15 she lived with me and my family from 16 and alone with me the last 2 yrs I loved her and we had our difficulties like any relationships but seemed solid until she cheated on me last year, I naturally ended it there and then when I found out and had no intention of ever getting back with her but she showed up at my house, called and txtd constantly and showed up at work and my family also finally broke me down to give her another chance. Neither of us really had a social life when we met she had no friends and I lost touch with mine over the years, she even used to work with me. I used to try and persuade her to make friends but she was never interested, she started a new job recently and made friends with a few younger girls and started going out and partying with them, I had no problem with this cause I wanted her to be happy, problem is I came home on the first of April to find all her stuff was gone from our house, no note no word, she hasn't txt, called and is ignoring me, I logged on to her Facebook page (which I set up and found she had been cheating again with more that one guy) she naturally changed her password. Still no word and being ignored I have since found out via facebook/mutual friends that she is now living with her new friends just five minutes from here and is having parties every night and is sleeping around. I dont know what to do I have no friends i was never aloud to go out and socialize alone without and inquisition my confidence is shattered I feel like going away and never coming back I dont know what to do I gave her everything.

[ButterflyGal]

You're 23. Young and in control of your life, if you've got no friends, then maybe try contacting old ones to catch up with, also put yourself into situations where you'll meet new people, like joining gym classes, i know it's going to be daunting and take a whole heap of energy, but it seems there's nothing to lose, facing a fear is the most liberating thing you could do, you've got one life only, take advantage of it.

 

Also, your family sounds like a good place to start with, go to them for support, or spend more time with them on the days your feeling down. If you find yourself dwelling over your ex, try and shift your focus on to planning something else instead, focus on yourself and not anyone else. How can I build my self-esteem? get a new look? buy new clothes? work hard on career? Once you've built your selfasteem a bit, and gotten in touch with old mate and met a new one, hit the town and you'll soon find out theres a whole load of fishes out there, all waiting to meet you.