I can't Cope. She's leaving me, But wants to still hang out. But is that a good idea?

[appletree]

Hey guys, I'm in a situation where my girlfriend is moving out soon with her best friend But still

wants to remain in contact with me. She tells me that she doesn't know me all her life, she would just die.

 

She's leaving to experience life on her own, independent from me and to do things for herself and figure out what she

wants to do with her life(she's 25, I'm 28) We've been together 4 years.

 

We've had a great relationship, a few communication problems (mainly her) but all in all 100% fun, we get along so well,

never fight, we love the same things, same music, art, travelling, both dreamers and both dream to have a marriage and

a family someday. We both love each other(maybe I more than her now..??) But she feels like if she doesn't do this now,

she'll never do it and regret it later. She says she knows I'm the one for her but that, she's just not ready and she

wishes she was older and wishes that she would have accomplished some things in her life by now, But hasn't. She's way too hard

on herself and I've always tried to encourage her and tell her that she can do anything and that she has talents, but

she always blows it off.

 

She's moving out within the next week. I'm staying in our apartment. But she keeps saying that she wants to still

know me and wants to still have dinner together and wants to still hang out with me. I'm just wondering if that is a good

idea or not. Maybe she needs to not see me or be with me to find out if she truly wants to be with me. But i fear if

i'm out of the picture, i'll lose her completly. It's hard for me to just go along with being her "friend". I'm going to miss

her really bad and She cries a lot whenever we talk about who's keeping what in the apartment. I want to be with her,

but I want her to have her space too and I feel that If i'm hanging out with her, She won't get that chance.....

 

WHAT DO YOU THINK???

[BklynGuy]

It is very hard when a woman you've been with for so long decides to walk out. There is nothing you can do about it. Some people leave & come back, some people leave and never come back. I wouldn't hold onto the hope for too long. It is only going to make things harder. Does "friends" ever really work with an ex, at least in the shortrun? Live your life and try to heal and move on.