unsureLP Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I haven't been here on a while, busy with work and school. Things are calm this week, but last week he blew up again. He admitted the next day it was all his fault, but that's not cutting it anymore. I am extremely tired of these ups and downs. I keep wondering what my breaking point is. I started IC and it's helping me level my head. I want to save the marriage, and I'm working on some baggage I have that adds to our problems for sure. The good (I say great, even!) news is that after the last blow up H said he wants to go to IC as well! I was shocked - this is the man who had to be dragged to MC and who thought any kind of counseling is total BS. He likes our marriage counselor and got comfortable with him, so now he sees the value in it. He said he knows he has some anger and depression problems and that he wants to work on them. Hallelujah! So there's hope still.
Gunny376 Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 It took cost me a marriage and a family and the better part of thirty years and finally civilian boss (also a retired National Guard First Sergeant) to tell me to eithier get help or get another job! Went and seen a psychologist who determined I had long term medium depression and anxiety along with alcohol abuse and PTRD Coordinated with my PMC (Primary physician) and got me on anit-depressests and anxiety meds. My attitude, perspective, everything has done a 180! I don't worry and I'm not anxisous about anything, I've quit drinking and smoke 2/3's less than I did. I sleep good solid REM sleep.
Author unsureLP Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 And I hope he can have the same type of turn around you are having, Gunny! I'm glad to hear things are looking up for you, and it reinforces my belief that sometimes we just need a little backup, a little specialized support, to get us back on the right track. (Don't they have specialists in the military to come in and do their thing when the time calls for it, so that everyone can go back to doing their jobs once the issue is dealt with?) So yeah, I hope my H keeps up his willingness to get some help. And I hope things keep looking up for you too.
LisaUk Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Personally I am wary of counsellors, espiacally in the UK as ANYONE, even if not qualified can call themself a counsellor, just like the bogus one my ex went to see then claimed four short sessions later he had "discovered" he hadn't had feelings for me in years.
Gunny376 Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 And I hope he can have the same type of turn around you are having, Gunny! I'm glad to hear things are looking up for you, and it reinforces my belief that sometimes we just need a little backup, a little specialized support, to get us back on the right track. (Don't they have specialists in the military to come in and do their thing when the time calls for it, so that everyone can go back to doing their jobs once the issue is dealt with?) So yeah, I hope my H keeps up his willingness to get some help. And I hope things keep looking up for you too. Yea and then they use to it court matrial you and end your carrer, make you a federal felon for the rest of your life when you can never own a gun, own land, lose your veterans benifits. Such as the Navy Seals (Military training from Hell) are up for gut punching an Iraq terrorist that killed, dismembered and burned their bodies on an Iraqui brifdge.
Gunny376 Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I haven't been here on a while, busy with work and school. Things are calm this week, but last week he blew up again. He admitted the next day it was all his fault, but that's not cutting it anymore. I am extremely tired of these ups and downs. I keep wondering what my breaking point is. I started IC and it's helping me level my head. I want to save the marriage, and I'm working on some baggage I have that adds to our problems for sure. The good (I say great, even!) news is that after the last blow up H said he wants to go to IC as well! I was shocked - this is the man who had to be dragged to MC and who thought any kind of counseling is total BS. He likes our marriage counselor and got comfortable with him, so now he sees the value in it. He said he knows he has some anger and depression problems and that he wants to work on them. Hallelujah! So there's hope still. I've been digonised with medium to modertate long term depression, anxiety, alcohol abuse and Delayed Stress Snydrone. The anti-depresants and anxiety~alcholol withdrawal within two weeks have done a 180 in my attitude, perspective, relations with others. I sleep deep REM sleep amd dream happy dreams. I worry less, in fact I don't worry about anything.
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